Changing yourself

All of us want to change our lives, to make it better. However, are we all able to do so? No. So, what could be the reason behind it that some people can change their lives very easily but most of the people (like us) are not able to do so? For me, the reason could be that we are not focusing on the right thing. All the time, we are focusing on the problem while we should be focusing on the solution. We start by trying to remove the problem first.

When we are in a dark room and we want light, what do we do? We turn on the nearest light source. We don't start trying to remove the darkness first. Of course, we turn on the light source because it sounds foolish to try to remove the darkness without light. Right? We all agree on this. So, why don't we use the same principle in our life problems?