Adila Bibi's Key Ideas from Married Ever After
by Ali Hammuda

The irony of life is that every path you choose will contain its own challenges.

You may find it difficult to live by the principles of this book, but it is even harder not to.

Minor day-to-day issues were never entirely eradicated, even from the household of the Prophet PBUH.

This is simply the reality of life.

This book seeks to address the overall principles that bring harmony to marriage and to guard against the most serious issues that threaten to destroy the marital bond.

View marriage as one part of a wide support network.

No human relationship should be relied upon to fulfill your every single need. While your spouse will inshaAllah bring you much relief and solace, it is crucial to recognize that relying solely on one person to fulfill all of your needs can lead to unmet expectations, disappointment, and potential strain on the relationship itself.

It is important to have a network.

1. Friends can provide emotional support and a sense of belonging and companionship outside of the marital relationship.
2. Family relationships can provide a sense of heritage, tradition, and connection to one's roots.
3. Community relationships can provide a sense of purpose, shared values, and a sense of contributing to something larger than oneself.

People have diverse needs and desires that extend beyond the scope of any single individual.

We have emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual dimensions that require nurturing and fulfillment. By cultivating relationships with family, friends, and the wider community, we open ourselves up to a variety of experiences, perspectives, and a source of joy.

Participating in a life partnership with your spouse carries an immediate practical benefit of providing you with a wholesome outlet for physical desire.

In a world of hypersexualization, the simple act of enjoying intimacy with your spouse will protect you from countless external harms that exist in wider society.

1. Weakening sense of individual responsibility as people not held accountable for their actions.
2. Breakdown of the family structure contributed to loss of values and morals, resulting in a more self-indulgent focused society.
3. People seeking pleasures that became increasingly violent and immoral, leading to a decline in societal standards.
4. Excessive taxes and government control hindered economic growth and stifled individual freedoms, causing frustration and resentment.
5. Decline of religion meant the moral compass and values holding society together were weakened, leading to breakdown in social order.