Amy Shoenthal: How to turn setbacks into success

Research into human psychology reveals that those who endure setbacks develop greater problem-solving skills, adaptability, and mental agility.

Neuroscientist Chantel Prat explains that setbacks trigger a dopamine dip, a process that enhances mental flexibility and resilience.

Similar to how muscles strengthen after being broken down, the brain grows more capable through adversity, fostering innovative thinking and durable success.

The first phase in overcoming setbacks involves recognizing and acknowledging their presence.

While some setbacks are obvious, like job loss or relationship endings, others are more subtle, such as stagnation in a role or personal dissatisfaction.

Tools like the "Alarm Clock Checklist" encourage reflection on what energizes or disengages individuals, helping them identify patterns that may point to an ongoing setback.

Embracing setbacks is arguably the most challenging step.

Society often conditions individuals to avoid discomfort, yet it is within these difficult moments that true transformation occurs.

Facing fears, reframing self-doubt, and seeking support from a trusted community are critical to moving past the emotional hurdles setbacks create.

Resilience begins when discomfort is viewed as an opportunity for growth rather than a barrier to success.

The exploration phase is about building and nurturing a supportive community.

Connections often lead to unexpected opportunities, as networks function like constellations, with each link unlocking new potential.

Simple actions, such as reaching out to friends or former colleagues, can rekindle relationships and open doors.

These connections provide encouragement and resources, helping individuals see possibilities they might otherwise overlook.

Emerging from a setback marks the final step in the cycle. A

rmed with new insights, skills, and community support, individuals are positioned to turn lessons learned into actionable success.

However, this phase also demands patience and self-compassion, as recovery from setbacks often requires rest and reflection before forward momentum is regained.

Taking the time to rebuild ensures that new opportunities are approached with clarity and strength.

A key element of overcoming setbacks is rewriting personal narratives.

If setbacks are interpreted as failures, they can erode self-worth.

However, reframing these experiences as moments of reinvention fosters confidence and a growth mindset.

By focusing on evidence of capability and support from others, individuals can shift from a place of doubt to one of empowerment.

• “The Lost Art of Connecting” by Susan McPherson
• “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck