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The Art of the Apology
We've all met people who never apologize, who proudly tell you that their family has a no-apology reputation that goes back generations. This tough stance is often mixed with notions of fierce independence, personal pride, and an every-man-for-himself mentality. Apologizing, according to this mindset, shows weakness and vulnerability; once you do, you're in danger of being taken advantage of.
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We've all been hurt by other people. You've also hurt people yourself. Whether the transgression was accidental or intentional, it hurts. Sometimes a loss of trust like this is temporary and can be healed. Other times, it leaves long-term scars, discord, and irreparable damage that ultimately ends the relationship.
Apologies are the Brussels sprouts of relationships. Research says they're good for us, and, like a dinner of the green stuff after a lunch of burger and fries, they can erase or at least mitigate the ill effects of a transgression.
Amy Ebesu Hubbard, the study's lead author and the communicology department chair at the University of Hawaii, Manoa, said the findings suggest that apologies function in several ways. "Showing remorse and seeking forgiveness are only part of the story," she said.