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Winner of the 2015 Book Prize for the Promotion of Social and Personality Science (Society for Personality and Social Psychology)

Why are we sometimes blind to the minds of others, treating them like objects or animals instead? Why do we talk to our cars, or the stars, as if there is a mind that can hear us? Why do we so routinely believe that others think, feel, and want what we do when, in fact, they do not? And why do we think we understand our spouses, family, and friends so much better than we actually do?

In this illuminating book, leading social psychologist Nicholas Epley introduces us to what scientists have learned about our ability to understand the most complicated puzzle on the planet—other people—and the surprising mistakes we so routinely make. Mindwise will not turn others into open books, but it will give you the wisdom to revolutionize how you think about them—and yourself.

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Mindwise by Nicholas Epley

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Mindwise Book Summary explores why we see human motivations in inanimate objects, why we fight others and why we are strangers to ourselves. If you’re interested in human behaviour and why people separate others into groups, this is the book for you.

We Are Strangers To Ourselves

We Are Strangers To Ourselves

Introspection is blind to construction. This does not mean that our introspective guesses are never accurate, just as you might guess the correct answer to a multiple-choice question.

When you don’t know the actual facts about yourself, your consciousness pieces together a compelling story, much in the same way it does when you’re trying to read the minds of other people to make sense of why they act as they do.

Introspection makes us feel like we know what’s going on in our own heads, even when we don’t. We don't realize that we’re spinning a story rather than reporting the facts.

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GEORGE CARLIN

“Have you ever noticed that everyone driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone going faster than you is a maniac?”

GEORGE CARLIN

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Naive Realism – The Human Curse

  • Naïve realism: the intuitive sense that we see the world out there as it actually is, rather than as it appears from our own perspective. 
  • When other people don’t share your views, the all-too-common sentiment that comes straight from naïve realism is “I’m right and you’re biased.” 
  • Disengagement can come anytime there is a distance between two minds that needs to be bridged. 
  • Minds are inferred rather than observed. They exist only as a theory each of us uses to explain both our own and other people’s behaviour.

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How other people think by getting to know your own mind better?

How other people think by getting to know your own mind better?

We’re all mind readers. Each of us has the ability to divine the desires, wishes, thoughts and feelings of other people.

But understanding others isn’t that difficult, the fact is that we all make mistakes when it comes to reading each other’s minds.

There are variety of common errors that we all make in our attempts to understand one another and the reasons behind such misunderstandings, including the stereotypes we hold, which have a major impact on our lives and even our lifespan.

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How other people think by getting to know your own mind better.

How other people think by getting to know your own mind better.

We believe in the fact that we know everything about your own thoughts, right? Wrong! Unfortunately, we don’t even have access to the mental processes that construct our own behavior.

The truth here is that we’re only aware of the “final product” of our thoughts. This is due to majority of our mental processes occur unconsciously, beyond our direct control.

Our mind functions by making associations, meaning that two thoughts or behaviors that were previously connected can trigger one another.

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We often think we know more about others than we actually do.

We often think we know more about others than we actually do.

We don’t really know what’s going on in our own minds. What chance then do we have of figuring out the minds of others?

Very little, it turns out. It’s very difficult to know what others think of you.

So while you might be confident that you’re well-liked it’s almost impossible to tell if others likes you, or just pretending.

The fact is that learning more about a person does not give you a greater ability to accurately read their mind; it's merely creates the illusion that you can.

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