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"Kick bad mental habits and toughen yourself up."—Inc.

Master your mental strength—revolutionary new strategies that work for everyone from homemakers to soldiers and teachers to CEOs.

Everyone knows that regular exercise and weight training lead to physical strength. But how do we strengthen ourselves mentally for the truly tough times? And what should we do when we face these challenges? Or as psychotherapist Amy Morin asks, what should we avoid when we encounter adversity? Through her years counseling others and her own experiences navigating personal loss, Morin realized it is often the habits we cannot break that are holding us back from true success and happiness. Indulging in self-pity, agonizing over things beyond our control, obsessing over past events, resenting the achievements of others, or expecting immediate positive results holds us back. This list of things mentally strong people don't do resonated so much with readers that when it was picked up by Forbes.com it received ten million views.

Now, for the first time, Morin expands upon the thirteen things from her viral post and shares her tried-and-true practices for increasing mental strength. Morin writes with searing honesty, incorporating anecdotes from her work as a college psychology instructor and psychotherapist as well as personal stories about how she bolstered her own mental strength when tragedy threatened to consume her.

Increasing your mental strength can change your entire attitude. It takes practice and hard work, but with Morin's specific tips, exercises, and troubleshooting advice, it is possible to not only fortify your mental muscle but also drastically improve the quality of your life.

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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do by Amy Morin

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1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.


2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.


3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt


1. Mentally Strong People Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

1. Mentally Strong People Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

No matter how intelligent you are or what life has thrown at you, there is no way to become more deserving of success than anyone else.

If a person loses their business and feels indebted, they’re inviting more frustration and anger into their life. Mentally strong people can shift their focus away from their debt. Hence, they can help people in need. Mentally strong people keep themselves busy doing good deeds.

If you follow this guidance, you can stop wasting time, stop feeling like you are owed something and stop resenting others’ success.


2. Mentally Strong People Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

2. Mentally Strong People Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

By far, the most harmful drug is self-pity. It is addictive, provides only temporary pleasure, and disconnects people from reality.

No one is immune to hard times. However, it is how you react to these situations that is important. Mentally strong individuals do not spend precious time pitying themselves. They replace self-pity with gratitude. 

Amy Morin provides an example of an American long-distance runner, Marla Runyan. She ran the New York Marathon in a little over two hours. Marla also has a master’s degree in education and has written a book.


The most impressive aspect of all this is that she is legally blind.

The key to her success lies in her refusal to indulge in self-pity. She’s always refused to identify her illness as a disability. Rather than dwelling on what her illness took away, she’s grateful for what it gave her.

In addition, research suggests that developing your gratitude capacity can strengthen you on many levels. In the first place, gratitude improves your physical well-being. A 2003 study found that grateful people suffer less from aches and pains.




"Don’t waste effort on what you can’t control; concentrate on doing what you can"


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Don't Resent Other People's Success

Don't Resent Other People's Success

Are you jealous of other people's success? Do you compare yourself with others?

Beleive it or not no one has a perfect life even if they pretends on social media.

Remember this, The less time you spend thinking about other people's success, the more time you have to achieve your own goals.

There will always be someone who is more successful, popular or wealthier than you, your only comparison should be your own old self.


Make yourself strong

Make yourself strong

  1. Giving up Bad Habbits.
  2. Make yourself physically strong by exercises.
  3. Remove unhealthy beliefs.
  4. Stop eating unhealthy food.


Some one physically strong but u know how to use that kindworth

Some one hated u but u don't hate that one because u don't waste time and thinking


Mentally strong

If u r ignored by some close one just ignore them and focus on ur goals and start to imagine ur future that going to shine like a big star . Don't be sad at the point that why he or she is ignoring u .Just stop thinking about them and move on .


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