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Learn What People Say With Their Arms!

Learn What People Say With Their Arms!

  • People restrict arm movements when lying! It’s indicative of self-restraint and caution, not necessarily deception.
  • Behind the back: superiority and don’t come close to me.
  • Arms can be blockers, “keeping someone at arm’s length” has real meaning.
  • Arms can be used to mark territory.
  • Dominant people splay or arms.
  • Hooding: hands interlocked behind head: confident and dominant.
  • Wealth is often shown on arms, or muscles, or tattoos, or smooth vs tanned elbows – observe arms to learn about people.

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What Every BODY is Saying

by Joe Navarro, Marvin Karlins

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Know The Body Language Of The Upper Body
  • Leaning away or turning slightly is an unconscious reaction to discomfort.
  • Your central (front side) leans into the thing it likes and away from what it dislikes.
  • Protecting your torso is a signal of discomfort.
  • Digestion is disrupted when you are uncomfortable.
  • Bowing slightly is a sign of humility, often cultural and for the elderly.

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Hands And Fingers
  • Good speakers use their hands to enthrall an audience; hiding hands is a suspicious activity so don’t do that (withdrawn, sneaky, and deceptive).
  • Decreases in touch signify relationship problems.
  • Don’t finger point, no one likes it, and it distracts attention from your message.
  • Thumbs in pocket with fingers out = unsure of yourself (low status or confidence typically with men).
  • Nail-biting signals nervousness or insecurity.
  • Thumbs up signifies goodneess!

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Pacifying behaviors: Know someone's state without talking!

If you see someone with a pacifying behavior when you speak about something, just note that the person is in a stressful state and change your approach to being with them.

  • We use pacifying behaviors to calm ourselves. Chewing gum, touching our necks, and touching our beards may help us calm down if we feel uncomfortable.
  • A few behaviors that indicate stress – whistling, talking to ourselves, excessive yawning, leg clenching, sliding your hands down your knee.

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peter f. drucker

"The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said."

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Body Language Of Feet And Legs!
  • We often cross our legs when we’re confident and comfortable with someone or a situation (no real threat around). 
  • We also tilt our legs towards the person we favor in courtship. Also, women dangling shoes with their toes is a sign of comfort, and so are footsies. Limited foot touching is bad.
  • When we don’t want to see or be around someone, we’ll often shift our feet to turn away as a sign of being displeased or wanting to disengage. This behaviour is automatic.
  • A knee clasp and a forward leaning torso indicate that someone is ready to leave a situation.

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  • Smile. It is even more important than you think. It's a great way to create trust. We judge people to be more pleasant when we are smiling.
  • Expand. Body movements that go up and out are very open and comforting. Anything that is compressing, like lip compression, is conveying stress.

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  • Ignoring context: Crossed arms don’t mean much if the room is cold or the chair they’re sitting in doesn’t have armrests. 
  • Not looking for clusters: It’s a consistent grouping of actions (sweating, touching the face, and stuttering together) that is really going to tell you something. 
  • Not getting a baseline: If someone is always jumpy, jumpiness doesn’t tell you anything. 
  • Not being conscious of biases: If you already like or dislike the person, it’s going to affect your judgment. 

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The Anomaly Of Bad Events
  • Bad news, like a catastrophic event, war, or death, happens quickly and instantly, and spreads like wildfire. A bad event does not take time to manifest, though the foundations have been laid long back, off the radar.
  • Good things take time and happen so slowly that nobody notices that there have been gradual improvements and the problem has now declined or subsided.

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