Seven years ago, I listened to Brené Brown's "The Power of Vulnerability" TED speech. It was one of the very first TED talks I had ever listened to and I remember being immediately obsessed and wanting more. Since then, Brown has become a national bestseller and the author of several incredible books including Daring Greatly .
We've all been hurt by other people. You've also hurt people yourself. Whether the transgression was accidental or intentional, it hurts. Sometimes a loss of trust like this is temporary and can be healed. Other times, it leaves long-term scars, discord, and irreparable damage that ultimately ends the relationship.
In order to show your sincerity when apologizing, you must be honest and vulnerable. That can lead to the cultivation of meaningful relationships. It can also lead to rejection, which is what makes it so scary.
When you apologize, be willing to share openly and candidly, allowing emotions to flow freely, so that you can be fully seen.
What is emotional regulation? "It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It can not be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell." - Buddha This quote encapsulates the essence of what "emotion regulation" is all about.