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How to Ask for Help When You Need It Most

Asking For Help

Asking For Help

Not wanting to seem weak, needy, and incompetent or like we’re taking advantage often keeps us from asking for help, but that’s often an overblown fear caused by our tendency to think the worst. Not asking for help, we miss out on potential knowledge and may end up worsening situations.

Having a support system leads to higher levels of well-being, better coping skills and a longer and healthier life.

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How to Ask for Help When You Need It Most

How to Ask for Help When You Need It Most

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Asking For Help

Not wanting to seem weak, needy, and incompetent or like we’re taking advantage often keeps us from asking for help, but that’s often an overblown fear caused by our tendency to think the worst. Not asking for help, we miss out on potential knowledge and may end up worsening situations.

Having a support system leads to higher levels of well-being, better coping skills and a longer and healthier life.

Seeking Help Is Strength

By taking an active step in seeking help or advice, you’re actually taking control of your life, and not letting external circumstances (such as what people think) affect how you behave and perform. It is courageous to accept your weaknesses.

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Reminding People That They Owe You One

If you have to remind someone that they owe you one, chances are they don’t feel as if they do. Reminding them that they owe you a favor both makes the other person feel as if you’re trying to control them and it makes the other person feel as if you’re keeping a scorecard, and that’s fundamentally bad for relationships.

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Uncomfortable situations

Besides the well-known health advantages, in a world where comfort is king, arduous physical activity provides a rare opportunity to practice embracing uncomfortable situations.

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