FOLLOW Know your typical thinking patterns Our personality and life experiences predispose us to dominant modes of thinking, but these can be biased in ways that are unhelpful in the majority of situations. Maybe you tend to worry people are angry at you when usually this isn’t the case. Or you tend to hesitate too much in making decisions.
When you thoroughly understand your personal thinking errors, you’ll be able to correct these, and this will become easier and almost automatic with practice.
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procrastination: putting off what we should be doing now substance abuse: consuming alcohol and drug often leads to us not reaching our goals chronic lateness: this will usually result in you being perceived as a not so trustworthy person stress eating: we all know the end of this one- poor diet or even illness intimacy and commitment issues: the negative consequence refers to you ending up alone. Self-sabotage and its causes
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Self-destructive behaviors can become habits and can continually undermine your success and happiness.
Self-sabotage is when we want something, but somehow we never accomplish it, because somewhere deep in our subconscious we’re fighting against that goal: Our disorganization distracts us. We’re constantly overthinking all of our decisions. Recognize self-sabotaging habits Procrastination. Start setting deadlines and mini-deadlines to work toward your objective. Negative self-talk/negative thinking. Be patient with yourself; be kind to yourself. Work to build yourself up. Perfectionism. It is an impossible standard that keeps you from moving forward. Deepstash is better on the app. Discover new ideas and get inspired daily. GET THE APP SIGN IN