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Sabotaging yourself and your relationships create unnecessary pain and self-generated stress.
To stop sabotaging yourself, you must first recognize when youâre getting in your own way. You need to figure out your patterns of behavior and then find creative ways to counteract them and...
Our personality and life experiences predispose us to dominant modes of thinking, but these can be biased in ways that are unhelpful in the majority of situations.
Maybe you tend to worry people are angry at you when usually this isnât the case. Or you tend to hesitate ...
Streamline your workflow so you can get simple things done without significant willpower.
For example, instead of having a container for pens and scissors in only one room of the house, have these in three different rooms to ensure better tidying.
Strategies like these s...
Decision making is hugely draining. If you can reduce cognitive fatigue from decision making, youâll have more emotional energy for other things.
âRules of thumbâ is aimed at producing a good outcome most of the time with minimal case-by-case effort. âIf Iâm going to run out in l...
A paradox perfectionists face in trying to reduce self-sabotage is their tendency to have inflexible standards and be dismissive of incremental gains.
When you start to appreciate the beauty of making incremental improvements, youâll see easy solutions that youâd previously been overloo...
âSeemingly irrelevant decisionsâ comes from treatment for addiction: a recovering alcoholic might decide to call an old drinking buddy, just to say hello or for a game of basketball, and soon finds that this minor decision takes them down the slippery slope of resuming alcohol abuse.
Sometimes people get into a trap of thinking, âWhen Iâm being more self-disciplined or more productive, then Iâll do more self-care.â But, if youâve run yourself to empty, try it the other way around.
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