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Charisma: What Is It and How You Can Develop Yours

Charismatic People Bring People Together

Charismatic People Bring People Together

Charismatic people have lots of connections and share them regularly. Highly charismatic people are not only great at meeting new people, but also sharing their talent with their connections by introducing people who they know will get along well.

This quality is part of the reason charismatic people are such sought after connections; they spread their social wealth.

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Charisma: What Is It and How You Can Develop Yours

Charisma: What Is It and How You Can Develop Yours

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/charisma/

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Be a Professional Cheerleader

Charismatic people offer encouragement instead of skeptically listening to people’s goals and ideas. Find ways to encourage people while still holding them accountable:

  • Reward good work.
  • Assign credit where credit is due.
  • Give genuine compliments.

Charismatic People Bring People Together

Charismatic people have lots of connections and share them regularly. Highly charismatic people are not only great at meeting new people, but also sharing their talent with their connections by introducing people who they know will get along well.

This quality is part of the reason charismatic people are such sought after connections; they spread their social wealth.

Likability is Key To Your Own Charisma

Likable leaders earn the trust of their team members and treat them well, and that makes the team’s performance better.

Teams with likable leaders tend to be more stable long-term because of lower turnover rates and are also better with changes since they are more likely to have employees committing to adopting to new ways.

Create A Competence Baseline

Research indicates that we like to be seen as competent, but we prefer to work with people who are warm. Ensure your skills are up to the task and then focus on your likability.

Avoid Socializing On Bad Days

When you’re not feeling your best for whatever reason it's impossible to interact with people at your highest level of charisma.

Even if you try to look happy, your face will betray you by subtly showing signs of your hidden emotions. It is much better to opt out of going to a unnecessary event than it is to show up and be unable to give people your best self.

Redefine Boring

Everyone has an incredible story within them. All you have to do is be interested.

You are responsible if you’re bored. To be good with people take responsibility and actively engage in the conversation instead of passively participating in the hopes others will share something interesting.

Don't Gossip

There is a scientific principle called “Spontaneous Trait Transference” that says that when you speak ill of someone, people associate that same trait with you.

Don’t speak ill of others. If you want to talk about someone, try gushing. Pick someone who you adore, imagine you’re giving them a toast and share all of their awesome qualities.

Be A Great Conversationalist

Charismatic people know how to listen well and do so more often than they speak.

They ask clarification questions. Ask follow-up questions and ask for examples to increase your connection with the speaker and understanding of the subject matter.

Charisma Doesn’t Equal Perfection

Research indicates that showing vulnerability increases one’s likability. The same research indicates that seeming to be perfect makes people perceive you as less charismatic.

Charisma

... is a compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others. 

Charisma isn’t necessarily an innate talent and can be acquired with the right understanding of charisma science.

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Develop A Sense Of Confidence

People like confident individuals, even if their other qualities are less attractive. Developing confidence is a balancing act as you don't want to be arrogant, but you also don't want to come across as timid or scared.

Exercising regularly, dressing in clothes that make you feel good, and talking about the things you understand well can help you build and maintain confidence.

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  • you need to be present in the moment when engaging with others.
  • you need to give off warmth by implying goodwill toward others.
  • you need to appear powerful by coming across as someone capable of affecting the world around you.
Being memorable

... by making a graceful exit. Offer the other person something of value before you go:

  • Information: an article, book, or web site you think might be of use to them.
  • A connection: someone they ought to meet, whom you know and can introduce them to.
  • Visibility: an organization you belong to, where you could invite them to speak.
  • Recognition: an award you think they should be nominated for
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Defining charisma

The German sociologist from the early 20th-century Max Weber wrote charisma is a quality that sets an individual “apart from ordinary men,” and causes others to treat him as “endowed with supernatural, superhuman, or at least specifically exceptional powers or qualities.”

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Charismatic individuals

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Narcissistic individuals

We've always admired famous people, but our admiration for people who admire themselves is on the rise. But true leaders keep their narcissism in check.

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Thin-Slicing
Studies have found that we not only decide if we like someone in the first few seconds, but also that the first impression stays with us.

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Self-Evaluation

Choose ONE word from this list of adjectives or pick your own to fill in the blank. When people first meet me, they think I am_____

  • Charismatic or boring
  • Outgoing or shy
  • Kind or judgmental
  • Intelligent or weird
  • Open or closed
  • Powerful or weak
  • Engaging or odd
  • Professional or casual

Did you pick a positive word? Or a negative word? You have to know where you stand now to move to where you want to be.

Ideal Firsts
How can you ensure people are judging you accurately and also seeing your best side? 

The most important thing to do for giving a good impression is to set your intention. Right now pick your ideal first impression word. When people first meet me, I want them to see me as_______.

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Confidence
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Creativity

Charismatic leaders think outside the box and aren’t afraid to push the limits.

While others may see this kind of push as risky, these leaders are the ones leading the way and driving innovation. When a problem arises, leaders don’t see only the difficulties. Instead, they rise to the challenge and see it as an opportunity. In business, this creativity can lead to powerful change and transformation, which can inspire and motivate others.

Vision

"Leadership requires two things: a vision of the world that does not yet exist and the ability to communicate it.” - Simon Sinek 

Because leaders value innovation, they are focused on the future and how they can improve it. They have a dream and direction that motivates and inspires others. 

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Humble Leaders

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Charismatic Leaders

Charismatic professionals execute a certain magnetism and presence that automatically lead others to endorse them as leaders.

They have high levels of energy, unconventional behaviour and seem to be doing heroic deeds. We seem to be hardwired to seek and endorse over-glorified 'Superhero' like leaders.

Narcissist Leaders

Charismatic leaders can also be narcissists in some cases, having self-serving and grandiose intentions, taking advantage of their followers and abusing their power.

Even though they are generally perceived as arrogant, their bold vision and fearless attitude make them radiate an image of effective leaders, making them a high-risk, high-reward proposition.

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Be humble, not charismatic

Charisma is useful for engaging and inspiring others.
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Be steady and dependable

As a leader, being reliable and responsible is important for your team. You stand a good chance in gaining the trust of your team if you show that you exercise caution, take calculated risks, and will hold to the organizational principles.

Modesty is the best policy

There is a degree of responsibility (and professionalism) that is expected from those in charge.
Trying to be the fun boss will harm your reputation eventually. It is good to keep some space between you and your team.

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Addicted to charisma

A leader who employs too much charisma can come to rely on this ability as an end unto itself.  Charismatic leaders can charm themselves. 

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Becoming addicted to a charismatic leader

An overly-charismatic leader draws focus from the rest of the organization by demanding all the attention. When the focus shifts to the personal characteristics of the leader, accountability is diminished.

The followers can become overly dependent on the leader for all manner of large and small directions and decisions. The enterprise loses the ability to be resilient in the face of changing realities. 

To avoid organizational dependency

... leaders must ask themselves:

  • Do I spend my time empowering others to make decisions, or does my involvement force people to look to me for answers?
  • How often do I dive into details that belong to others?
  • How do my actions and attention help – or prevent – others from taking greater responsibility and accountability for their actions?

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Connect with people emotionally

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Be emotionally curious

Become genuinely interested in other people. A great way to do this is to ask them open-ended questions.

Everyone wants to be liked, loved and accepted. When you fulfill that need for others, you are perceived as being influential.

Use high-powered body language

When you manifest powerful body language, you are seen as more influential. 

The head is held high, the arms are loose, the shoulders are set back and the chest is out. Confident body language not only affects the way others see you but also the way you see yourself. 

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