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"You become what you think of. Force yourself to think positive and you’re good."
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"IQ doesn’t matter, it’s all about how you understand and get along with people."
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"Most meaning of human communication is nonverbal, so you can forget about the actual words."
The Truth:
This is what, in a nutshell, the Mehrabian study tells us:
"When it comes to feelings and atittudes, we get most of our cues of the speaker’s i...
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Once the ratio hit about 11 to 1, positive emotions began doing more harm than good. Beyond that balance of positive-to-negative, Life becomes a festival of Panglossian cluelessness, where self-delusion suffocates self-improvement.
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"A survey of Yale’s class of 1953 found out that people who wrote down their goals out-earned all the rest by several orders of magnitude."
The Truth:
Some people looked for the source of this study.
And there was none.
Finally,
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"The brain can rewire and change itself, and that means that you can learn anything."
The Self-Help Lie:
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"To feel better and live fully, you must let out all negative emotions."
The Truth:
There is plenty of evidence that venting your anger actually only makes you more angry and aggressive and increases the negative consequences of anger.
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Violence ensues when people feel that their favorable views of themselves are threatened or disputed by others.
As a result, people whose self-esteem is high but lacks a firm basis in genuine accomplishment are especially prone ...
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"Repeat yourself a mantra and you will eventually come to believe it and embody it."
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"We have found that merely repeating positive statements to yourself does not raise ...
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"If you focus on positives you will be happier and more successful. If you focus on the negative you will be unhappier."
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"To be happy, you just need to smile."
The Lie:
This was actually backed by a famous study originally called in psychology the “facial feedback hypothesis” (
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"The more you visualize yourself winning, the closer you get to actually winning."
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"The more confident and the higher your self esteem, the better off you are."
The Truth:
That’s not wholly wrong. High self-esteem is good.
But only if accompanied by a
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"If you want to become world-class good all you need to do is put in 10,000 hours."
Why It’s Wrong:
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"If you think often enough and with enough conviction about what you want you can attract it in your life."
The Truth:
From a psychological perspective, this notion has some merit but there is
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Having compassion for yourself is really no different from having it for others. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes and it’s OK to feel stressed or sad. Pain and suffering are part of our shared human experience; they are just a reaction to what’s going on in our life.
"Repeat yourself a mantra and you will eventually come to believe it and embody it."
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It's important that you start from a place of happiness and participate in the activities just because you are enjoying them.
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