Over-attunement
“They call me from where they are instead of coming to me.”
Let them call from where they are. It’s okay. It’s safe for them to do that. If we don’t respond in a way that makes that work for them, then they’ll come over.
They’re going to share every little thing with us. It’s not an emergency.
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