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How to Improve Conversation Skills
Connecting
Connecting with friends means letting them to know you and vice versa.
Talk about yourself, disclose your life facts, opinions and feelings. This way, you have have subjects to talk about and you form lasting bonds.
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Raise Your Self-Esteem
Create a life you love and learn to appreciate your uniqueness.
Many social issues come from a low sense of self-worth. This causes your conversations to suffer before they begin.
A Confident Body Language
- Stand straight.
- Hold your head up.
- Unfold your arms and relax your hands.
- Establish eye contact.
- Smile.
Connecting
Connecting with friends means letting them to know you and vice versa.
Talk about yourself, disclose your life facts, opinions and feelings. This way, you have have subjects to talk about and you form lasting bonds.
Increased Self-awareness
If you don’t know who you are, you can’t truly connect. You won’t get across what you’re about to others.
That’s why it’s important to have a firm grasp on your strengths, weaknesses, opinions, interests, etc.
Be Present
Being in the present moment is one of the most important traits of improving social skills.
By paying attention to what’s going on, you catch the details you can use later in the conversation.
Know Some Current Topics
Having a topic or two in mind can help when you’re running low on things to say.
Good topics are usually light (not politics, religion, etc.) and either funny or opinion provoking.
Practice
To get better you need to get out there, consistently practice conversation skills, make mistakes and learn from them. There is no other way.
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Develop a taste for small talk
Whenever faced with uncertainty when trying to make conversation, you might want to consider making small talk.
It can work wonders and it helps with getting to know the other.
Learn to ask the right questions
Making good conversation implies mastering the technique of asking the right questions, in the correct order, in a proper tone.
The purpose is to get to know the other, without making it feel like an interrogation.
Asking deep questions
Once you have got the chance to get to know a bit more about the other, you can initiate the use of deeper questions.
These allow you to create a bond and to show to the other person how interested you are in his or her life.
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Take a Shower
Anecdotal evidence links shower to creativity.
So maybe when the status quo response to some circumstance just isn’t working, try taking a shower.
Study Another Industry
Pick some media from different industries. You may find that other industries have problems similar to yours but maybe they were solved in a different way.
You may also find new linkages between your own industry and another, linkages that may lead to innovative partnerships in the future.
Learn About Other Religions
Religions are a way for us to understand our relationships with the supernatural and with each other. Learning how such relations are structured can teach you a lot about how people relate to each other and the world around them.
Seeing the reason in other religions can also help you develop mental flexibility.
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The social foundation: emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence (or E.I.) is your ability to be aware of your own emotions, to recognize emotions in others and use that information to guide your behavior.
When you develop you...
The general categories of E.I.
- Self-awareness: Do you get anxious in loud environments? Self-awareness is knowing these things about yourself.
- Self-regulation deals with your ability to manage your own emotions.
- Motivation: You know how to motivate yourself and create or continue projects because you choose to.
- Empathy: It means recognizing the emotions of others.
- Socialization: It is your ability to navigate social situations, including conveying your ideas to co-workers or dealing with a conflict in a relationship.
Constructively confront someone
Our own fears keep us from confronting others. We fear that we'll lose something, hurt someone we care about, or that it will accomplish nothing.
- Recognize that fear in yourself and identify the real issues that led to the conflict.
- When you are able to discuss the issue, instead of firing accusations, describe your behavior using "I" statements: "I feel hurt that .............................."
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