Questions to Ask Kids About Teasing

Maybe you’ve heard that kids are teasing your child or your student at school. You can ask a few questions to see whether it’s good-natured or harmful:

  • Are the kids who tease you your friends?
  • Do you like when they tease you?
  • Do you tease them back?
  • If you told them to stop teasing, would they?
  • If you told them that they hurt your feelings, what would they say sorry?

If the answer to any of these questions is “no” or “I don’t know,” then it may be a case of negative teasing or even bullying. It’s important to find out more.

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The Difference Between Teasing and Bullying

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At a Glance
  • Teasing and bullying are different.
  • Not all teasing is bad. Sometimes it’s playful and helps kids bond.
  • When teasing is meant to hurt and done over and over, it can become bullying.

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Good-natured teasing is a way for people to communicate with each other. It’s a social exchange.

  • Many kids tease each other to bond or form relationships. When the best kid on a basketball team misses a dunk, and a teammate says, “Hey, Magic, nice shot,” they can both laugh it off. The teasing shows each other they can joke around and still be friends.
  • Teasing can also be fun. Think, for example, of the back-and-forth banter that happens in any romantic comedy.

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Verbal bullying is different from teasing. It’s not done to make friends or to relate to someone. Just the opposite: The goal is to embarrass the victim and make the bully look better and stronger.

  • The tricky thing is that bullying may start out as teasing. But when it’s done over and over and is meant to be hurtful or threatening, it becomes bullying.
  • Verbal bullying includes calling victims names, taunting, and sexual harassment. It can happen in person, through texting, and online through social media and email.

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  • Teasing can sometimes lead to bullying.
  • Kids who struggle with social skills need help understanding how to react to teasing.
  • If kids are being teased, asking specific questions can help you figure out whether it’s harmful.

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Cyberbullying is bullying with the use of digital technologies. It can take place on social media, messaging platforms, gaming platforms and mobile phones. It is repeated behaviour, aimed at scaring, angering or shaming those who are targeted. Examples include:

  • spreading lies about or posting embarrassing photos of someone on social media
  • sending hurtful messages or threats via messaging platforms
  • impersonating someone and sending mean messages to others on their behalf. 

Face-to-face bullying and cyberbullying can often happen alongside each other. But cyberbullying leaves a digital footprint – a record that can prove useful and provide evidence to help stop the abuse.

If you are worried about your safety or something that has happened to you online, urgently speak to an adult you trust. Or visit Child Helpline International to find help in your country.

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Cyberbullying: What is it and how to stop it

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People rarely mention this subject but it’s quite insidious. This type of person exercises a sort of moral authority over those they consider intellectually inferior. This style of arrogance often hides a clear superiority complex that leads, sooner or later, to clearly aggressive behavior.

This kind of psychological abuse borders on a somewhat more singular and even disconcerting abyss .

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How to Deal with an Intellectual Bully

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Bullying: a form of violence

Bullying is intended to dominate a victim into submission.

When we're under attack, our rational minds shut down and move into the fight-or-flight mode. When we can't fight or run away, we freeze or surrender.

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My dad taught me how to deal with bullies, because he was one

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