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10 Lessons I Learned From Making Many Mistakes In My 20s - Darius Foroux
Don’t Think You Know Everything
Understand that life is not about impressing others with what you know. It’s about fulfillment, collaboration, and the common good.
If you want to achieve those things, you need to be humble.
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Never Blame People For Your Unhappiness
As a child, you’re taken care of by others. Hence, you assume that someone is responsible for you.
When you grow up, you are responsible for you. So never look at others when you’re unhappy. Instead, accept your unhappiness, and then do something about it.
Stop Wasting Time On Losers
There’s a big chance the people in your environment don’t strive for the same things as you. Many people live a timid life. People who don’t want anything from life and who spend their time watching tv.
Don’t give your time to those people. You might become one of them.
Love Is Not What You Think
Most of us have this twisted idea about life. “I want her to treat me this and this way.” Who are you to claim such a thing? And if the other doesn’t live up to our expectations, we flip out or leave.
That’s called conditional love. Strive for the opposite.
You Don’t Have A Lot Of Time
When you’re young, you think you have an endless sea of time.
- How much time am I wasting on things that give me zero fulfillment?
- Do I like my job?
- Do I like the people in my life?
You’re Probably Not As Awesome As You Think
There’s always someone better looking, cooler, smarter, stronger, or you name it than you. Always.
That statement implies you’re comparing yourself to others. Just be yourself and don’t compare yourself to others.
Learning Never Stops
When you stop learning and developing yourself; you’re dead.
Push yourself to learn something every day. If you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.
Doing Hard Things Gives You More Pleasure
Doing hard things will have more return on your life, time, energy, and money.
When you do something that requires a lot of effort, you feel good about it.
Being Alone Will Make You More At Peace
It’s a dangerous sign if you can never be alone.
When you’re always with others, you’re just a product of the other people in your life. Sometimes you need to distance yourself from others. When you’re alone, you have time to know who you are.
Small Decisions Lead To Big Outcomes
Another drink wouldn’t hurt, right? Sleeping in today is not bad, right? I can easily spend $1500 on a new iPhone, right?
The answer is no, no, and NO to every other small decision you think has no impact on your life. The truth is that your life is the result of your small decisions.
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Lessons learned by making mistakes
- You can't know everything. Be humble.
- Never blame others for your unhappiness. Take responsibility.
- Don't waste time on losers. You might become one of them.
- Most of us have a twisted idea about love.
- You actually don't have a lot of time.
- Learning never stops.
- Sometimes you need to distance yourself from others and be alone.
- Small decisions lead to big outcomes.
How well you’re spending your time
Ask yourself:
- How much time am I wasting on things that give me zero fulfillment?
- Do I like my job?
- Do I like the people in my life?
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Focus
The right frame of mind, and thinking about positive things to happen goes a long way to improving your life. Focus on what you want.
Act on it
You can't just think good thoughts and assume your life will be better.
We can't just think something. We need to act on it.
Showing initiative
Be an originator of the action, of new ideas and be the first to start something new.
Set an example. No matter what it is, be the first one who does something.
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Confirmation Bias
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