<ul><li>Fusion with unhelpful thoughts. Solution: defuse the thoughts and recognise them as just words.</li><li>Expectations that are unrealistic. Solution: break goals down to smaller pieces, extend their timeframes, and don't be afraid to make mistakes.</li><li>Avoidance of uncomfortable feelings. Solution: recognise that working towards goals generates pleasant feelings too, of curiosity, excitement and satisfaction.</li><li>Remoteness from your values. Solution: write down your values, read them through, and change as required. </li></ul>

Obstacles to Change

<ul><li>Focus on one domain at a time.</li><li>Write down your goals. This makes you more likely to take action.</li><li>Goals should be SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time -bound.</li><li>Set a combination of immediate, short term (days to weeks), medium term (weeks to months) and long term (years) goals.</li><li>Never set a dead person's goal, something a dead person could do better than you.</li></ul>

Setting Goals

Acceptance and commitment therapy aims to create a rich, full and meaningful life while effectively handling the painful thoughts and feelings that go with it.<ul><li>Effectively handling painful thoughts and feelings is done through mindfulness, which can be divided in to defusion, expansion, connection, and the observing self.</li><li>Creating a rich, full and meaningful life is done by setting goals, guided by your values, and taking committed and effective action to achieve them.</li></ul>

Acceptance & Commitment

Your values are what is most important, deep in your heart; what sort of person you want to be; what is significant and meaningful to you; and what you want to stand for in this life. There are ten domains of values:<ul><li>Family</li><li>Intimate Relationships</li><li>Friendships</li><li>Employment</li><li>Education and Personal Development</li><li>Recreation, Fun and Leisure</li><li>Spirituality</li><li>Community Life</li><li>Environment and Nature</li><li>Health and Body</li></ul>

Finding Your Values

Embrace your demons, and follow your heart.

<ol><li>Defusion: learning to perceive thoughts, images and memories as pictures and words, rather than threats, rules and objective facts.</li><li>Expansion: making room for unpleasant feelings, sensations and urges; allowing them to come and go without struggling with them or running from them.</li><li>Connection: bringing full awareness to your here-and-now experience, with openness, interest, and receptiveness; focusing on, and engaging fully in the present. </li><li>The Observing Self: accessing a transcendent sense of self; unchanging and ever present, where no thought is dangerous, threatening, or controlling.</li></ol>

Mindfulness Skills

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