Worrying is the mental habit of trying to solve a problem that either can’t be solved or isn’t really a problem.&nbsp;It gives us the illusion of control.&nbsp;Worrying about it won’t change things. But it will lead to a lot of anxiety.

Worrying about the future 

Problem Solving

When we hide our pain and isolate ourselves, we throw away the most powerful antidepressant: loving support from people who care about us.You don’t need coping strategies when you’re sad discouraged, or helpless. You need people. You need support. You need someone to give you a hug and listen carefully to your story.

Isolating yourself

Most of us hesitate to push back and stand up for ourselves because we’re afraid of being perceived as aggressive or rude. And so we default to being passive.But there’s a middle road between being passive and aggressive: You can be assertive. It means standing up for your own wants, needs, and values, in an honest and respectful way.

Keeping quiet

If you talked to other people the way you talked to yourself, you’d probably have zero friends, no job, and multiple warrants out for your arrest. Why treat yourself in a different way?

Talking trash to yourself

Stress management is a Band-Aid. It’s treating the symptoms.If you’re constantly stressed, the long-term solution is to fix the original cause of the stress (the stressor) not the feeling (the stress response).

Trying to manage stress

Cultivate a healthy skepticism of your own thoughts. Learn to let them be. You’ll be happier for it.Your thoughts aren’t special. And a lot of them are actively detrimental if you maintain a habit of always giving them tons of respect and attention.

Believing your own thoughts

"The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but you thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. "

Everybody wants to know what they can do to be happier. We crave some combination of lessons, tricks, inspiration, goals, strategies, life-hacks, pills, or even apps that will add more happiness and wellbeing to our lives. But what if finding happiness is less about what we should add and more about what we should subtract?