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7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

Ignore What You Can’t Influence

Ignore What You Can’t Influence

Mental strength isn’t an unlimited resource, don’t waste it on things you can’t control.

Do what you can. Be your own change--but don't try to make everyone else change.

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7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/7-habits-of-people-with-remarkable-mental-toughness.html

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Act as If You Are In Total Control

Most successful people do feel good luck played some role in their success. But they don't wait for it or worry about bad luck. They act as if success or failure is totally within their control.

By not wasting mental energy worrying about what might happen to you, you can put all your effort into making things happen.

See The Past as Training

Learn from your mistakes, and those from others too, but let them go. The past is just training; it doesn't define you.

When something bad happens, see it as an opportunity to learn something you didn't know. When another person makes a mistake, learn from it and see it as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.

Celebrate The Success Of Others

Some think the success of others diminishes their own. But resentment sucks up a massive amount of mental energy--energy better applied elsewhere.

Don't resent awesomeness. Create and celebrate awesomeness, wherever you find it, and in time you'll find even more of it in yourself.

Don’t Whine, Complain Or Criticize

Whining about your problems always makes you feel worse. So if something is wrong, put the energy you would waste complaining into making the situation better.

Don't talk about what's wrong. Talk about how you'll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.

Focus Only On Impressing Yourself

People may like your things, but that doesn't mean they like you. A relationship not based on substance is not a real relationship.

Genuine relationships make you happier and leave you more mental energy to spend on those who really matter in your life. But they can only be established when you stop trying to impress and start being yourself. 

Count Your Blessings

Take a second every night before you turn out the light and, instead of worrying about what you don’t have, think about what you do have.

You have a lot to be thankful for. Feeling better about yourself is the best way of all to recharge your mental batteries.

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What Perspective Taking Is

It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.

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Develop perspective taking
  • Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
  • Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
  • Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
  • Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
  • Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations,  imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
  • Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.
Using perspective taking

When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation. 

By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.

Resilience

... is the mental toughness to face and overcome adversity. It keeps you up and running long after others have given up.

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Core Beliefs of Resilient People
  • "I master my emotions lest they master me." They step back from a situation before taking action.
  •  "I walk the talk and never just talk the walk.When they make a commitment, they fulfill it.
  •  "I can and do prepare myself for the future." They see themselves as being in constant training to face the next set of challenges.
  • "I learn more from failure than from success."  They don't fear failure.
  • "I value my courage higher than my security." They accept that nothing in today's world is secure: not jobs, not information, not the future.
  • "I take criticism constructively not personally." Criticism toughens them because they don't take it personally.
  •  "I keep my goals in mind but I focus on my process.They can adapt to and overcome obstacles.
  • "I value strong, supportive relationships.
  • "I reward myself for every win."
  • "I always have more to give." Their energy and attention are not limited resources.
Steps For Building a New Habit
  • Start by building your identity.
  • Focus on small behaviors, not life-changing transformations.
  • Develop a routine that gets you going regardless of how motivated you feel.
Defining Mental Toughness

Whatever it is, be clear about what you’re going after and tie it to concrete actions. You can’t think your way to becoming mentally tough, you prove it to yourself by doing something in real life.

Mental Toughness And Small Wins

Mental toughness needs to be worked to grow and develop. If you haven’t pushed yourself in thousands of small ways, you’ll wilt when things get difficult.

Extreme situations test our courage, perseverance, and mental toughness, but so do everyday circumstances. Challenge yourself whenever you can, consistently do what you know you’re supposed to and don’t let your brain’s laziness control you.

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