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7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

Celebrate The Success Of Others

Celebrate The Success Of Others

Some think the success of others diminishes their own. But resentment sucks up a massive amount of mental energy--energy better applied elsewhere.

Don't resent awesomeness. Create and celebrate awesomeness, wherever you find it, and in time you'll find even more of it in yourself.

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7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/7-habits-of-people-with-remarkable-mental-toughness.html

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Act as If You Are In Total Control

Most successful people do feel good luck played some role in their success. But they don't wait for it or worry about bad luck. They act as if success or failure is totally within their control.

By not wasting mental energy worrying about what might happen to you, you can put all your effort into making things happen.

Ignore What You Can’t Influence

Mental strength isn’t an unlimited resource, don’t waste it on things you can’t control.

Do what you can. Be your own change--but don't try to make everyone else change.

See The Past as Training

Learn from your mistakes, and those from others too, but let them go. The past is just training; it doesn't define you.

When something bad happens, see it as an opportunity to learn something you didn't know. When another person makes a mistake, learn from it and see it as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.

Celebrate The Success Of Others

Some think the success of others diminishes their own. But resentment sucks up a massive amount of mental energy--energy better applied elsewhere.

Don't resent awesomeness. Create and celebrate awesomeness, wherever you find it, and in time you'll find even more of it in yourself.

Don’t Whine, Complain Or Criticize

Whining about your problems always makes you feel worse. So if something is wrong, put the energy you would waste complaining into making the situation better.

Don't talk about what's wrong. Talk about how you'll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.

Focus Only On Impressing Yourself

People may like your things, but that doesn't mean they like you. A relationship not based on substance is not a real relationship.

Genuine relationships make you happier and leave you more mental energy to spend on those who really matter in your life. But they can only be established when you stop trying to impress and start being yourself. 

Count Your Blessings

Take a second every night before you turn out the light and, instead of worrying about what you don’t have, think about what you do have.

You have a lot to be thankful for. Feeling better about yourself is the best way of all to recharge your mental batteries.

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What Perspective Taking Is

It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.

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Develop perspective taking
  • Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
  • Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
  • Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
  • Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
  • Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations,  imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
  • Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.
Using perspective taking

When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation. 

By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.

Resilience

... is the mental toughness to face and overcome adversity. It keeps you up and running long after others have given up.

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Core Beliefs of Resilient People
  • "I master my emotions lest they master me." They step back from a situation before taking action.
  •  "I walk the talk and never just talk the walk.When they make a commitment, they fulfill it.
  •  "I can and do prepare myself for the future." They see themselves as being in constant training to face the next set of challenges.
  • "I learn more from failure than from success."  They don't fear failure.
  • "I value my courage higher than my security." They accept that nothing in today's world is secure: not jobs, not information, not the future.
  • "I take criticism constructively not personally." Criticism toughens them because they don't take it personally.
  •  "I keep my goals in mind but I focus on my process.They can adapt to and overcome obstacles.
  • "I value strong, supportive relationships.
  • "I reward myself for every win."
  • "I always have more to give." Their energy and attention are not limited resources.

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Quitting is underrated

Successful people quit (or proactively adjust) a lot more often than people who aren’t successful. They stay flexible and open to new ideas or opportunities or ways of getting things done.

But never quit something with great long-term potential just because you can’t deal with the stress at the moment

“Instead of continually trying to force yourself to do things you don’t want to do, let them go. Without the emotional weight and mental clutter of keeping things on your agenda that don’t absolutely need to be there, you’re much freer to rapidly move forward on what you really do want and need to get done.”

“Instead of continually trying to force yourself to do things you don’t want to do, let them go. Without the emotional weight and mental clutter of keeping things on your agenda that don’t absolutely need to be there, you’re much freer to rapidly move forward on what you really do want and need to get done.”

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Time Is The Most Precious Resource

Time is the most precious resource. Death gives a sense of urgency, as any moment could be your last. It humbles you and should also deeply motivate you to not spend your time thoughtlessly.

Emotions Come From Within

Outside forces don’t make us feel things, our perceptions of them do. It’s easy to think otherwise, but doing so harms us and undermines our self-discipline.

The next time you run into an obstacle and feel resistance, don’t look at what’s around you. Instead, look within.

The People You Respect

Whatever you do, there are individuals that you can learn from. If you can’t talk to them, you can study their story, works, techniques, successes, and failures, and discover patterns of success you can apply to your life.

Be careful not to turn it into an exercise of comparison and expect your progress to be the same as theirs. Their teachings and principles are supposed to help you grow, learn, and create. 

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Do a yearly review

Ask yourself:

  • What went well for me last year?
  • What accomplishments did I have?
  • How did I improve my life?
  • How did I improve my relationsh...
Finish what you started

Which of your projects, errands and general to-do items do you still have left from the previous year that you may be able to complete in less than 2 hours? Do them now to enable you to give yourself a fresh start.

Be realistic

Dreaming is great, but if you want to accomplish some improvements, you need to make your dream more realistic.

Break your dream down into milestones: if you want to work from home, what steps do you need to take? Break those steps down further into actionable steps and start working towards making your dream a reality.

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Not Celebrating Your Success

It's never good enough, so you get sucked so far into the details that you become frustrated.

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Pursuing Perfection, But Never Feeling Perfect

Even if you have a clear goal of what perfection means, obsessively pursuing it is a sign of insecurity.

And insecurity, when not addressed directly, doesn’t go away because a concrete objective has been achieved, it manifests itself into self-criticism or a new overvalued goal.

Not Allowing Yourself To Fail

Instead of forgiving and viewing mistakes as a learning opportunity, you criticize and put pressure on yourself for not predicting a less than perfect outcome. You feel inadequate, and these feelings preoccupy your mind, often to the point of losing productivity.

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Steps For Building a New Habit
  • Start by building your identity.
  • Focus on small behaviors, not life-changing transformations.
  • Develop a routine that gets you going regardless of how motivated you feel.
Defining Mental Toughness

Whatever it is, be clear about what you’re going after and tie it to concrete actions. You can’t think your way to becoming mentally tough, you prove it to yourself by doing something in real life.

Mental Toughness And Small Wins

Mental toughness needs to be worked to grow and develop. If you haven’t pushed yourself in thousands of small ways, you’ll wilt when things get difficult.

Extreme situations test our courage, perseverance, and mental toughness, but so do everyday circumstances. Challenge yourself whenever you can, consistently do what you know you’re supposed to and don’t let your brain’s laziness control you.

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Self-control
Self-control

It's the ability to do something that helps you in the long-term, instead of something that might satisfy your immediate desires.

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What tempts us

We vary widely in terms of what tempts us.

If you take the time to look into your habits and biases, you can recognize the problems that you need to work on. Once you understand the sources of your self-control issues, you can begin directing the right resources toward fixing them.

Improve self-control at work

Take a future-oriented approach to your day, such as planning breaks and the time slots for checking emails in advance.

If you can refrain from resigning to your urges before the time you’ve assigned for yourself, you may achieve a greater hold on your overall self-control.

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Believing That Being Wrong Is a Failure

The best way to know what works and what doesn’t, is to fail a few times.

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Thinking That Everything Is About You

Many of us obsess over “rejections” and ruminate on what we could have done differently. It’s more productive to realize that every disappointment or poor interaction is not actually about us. 

Successful people realize that every little thing – bad or good – is not a reflection of them or their self-worth.

Being E-Ready Every Minute of the Day

Smart people know that having a fulfilling life means having a life outside of work. And they make time for it. Obsessively checking work email at the dinner table is a good recipe for disaster. 

Set some time where your phone is off, and your attention is on the people right in front of you.

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If you see something as a sacrifice, it will bring you frustration

When you think you have to sacrifice something in your life in order to be successful you will build frustration and resentment towards yourself. And so that lofty goal that should ha...

This idea of sacrificing things to become successful comes from comparisons

From comparing our lives to others. Why do you think you look at things as a sacrifice? Compared to what?Well, so and so is having an avocado salad at a rooftop bar in SoHo.” Who gives a shit. ⚠️