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Why Do We Lie?

Our reasons for lying

Where lying is concerned, we just can't seem to help ourselves. 

We lie for two reasons: behavioral conditioning and cognitive evolutionary biology.

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The increase in lying is driven by the development of the ability to see the world from someone else's perspective. We gain an understanding of the beliefs, intentions, and knowledge of others.

The more we lie, the easier it becomes. Among two-year-olds, only 30 percent are untruthful. Among three-year-olds, 50 percent lie. By eight, kids learn to mask their lying by deliberately giving a wrong answer or making their statement seem like a guess.

Why we limit our lies

We like to see ourselves as honest because we have internalized honesty as a value taught to us. We generally place limits on how much we are willing to lie.

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Reality Distortion

Most of us have evolved to overestimate our positive qualities, as it feels good. This ‘self-enhancement’ is done with the right intentions but is nothing more than a reality distortion in our minds.

Self-Deceptions

We all form impressions about ourselves, and once those impressions have been formed, they stick. It is as if once they are frozen in our minds, having become a part of us, and we don’t want to lose them, even if they are proven to be false.

Example: A study on high school boys showed that having overconfidence (or self-deception) in one’s abilities (athletic or academic) made them popular, even if they weren't really better in any of those abilities.

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Lying Is Becoming Mainstream

As lies morph into a common, accepted standard, our attention (and obsession) is with guilt, fakeness, deceit and manipulation.

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Dishonesty As a Global Currency

In any social setting, lies keep the world from falling apart, becoming the real global currency:

  • Organizations and their employees routinely lie to preserve identity, protect the reputation of an individual or group
  • In relationships, one lies to spare the other from feeling bad, or to avoid an awkward situation.
  • We lie to ourselves and consistently believe we are smarter or better looking that we really are.
  • We lie on social media.