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How to Be a More Positive Person, According to Experts | Time

Phone a friend

Most optimists have strong, supportive relationships. The comfort of knowing you don’t have to do everything by yourself contributes to long-term happiness.

You don’t have to have a lot of them, but you have to have around you people you trust and trust you back. 

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How to Be a More Positive Person, According to Experts | Time

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Reframe or divert

The first step in approaching a negative situation with an optimistic outlook is to accept what you can’t change.

Once you’ve done that, you have 2 options: reframe ( look for an opportunity instead of ruminating on the loss ) or divert (shift your focus to something else).

Savor the good

Noticing and savoring the pleasant moments and thinking, "Wow, this is really great "can strengthen positive emotions.

In general, we tend to dwell on the negative side and not notice the positive things we experience.

Set reminders

Write yourself a message on a sticky note and attach it to your computer screen at work (an inspirational quote, a reminder to smile, etc).

Small reminders like these help keep positivity front and center in your life.

Do something nice for someone else

One of the fastest, most effective ways to feel happier is to show someone kindness.

In a 2017 study by Oxford University, researchers found that performing acts of kindness for just seven days had a measurable, positive effect on well-being and positive social emotion.

Phone a friend

Most optimists have strong, supportive relationships. The comfort of knowing you don’t have to do everything by yourself contributes to long-term happiness.

You don’t have to have a lot of them, but you have to have around you people you trust and trust you back. 

Say thanks

Thinking about what you’re grateful for can instantly improve your mood.

It works because our interpretation of events influences our emotions more than the events themselves.

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Highly motivated people ask themselves: WHY do I do what I do?

If you know WHY you do what you do, and it matters deeply to you, then you will find your strength in any situation.

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For example, we might tell ourselves: "That’s not me; I can’t do that; or, I’m not good enough."

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