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You're doing your weekend wrong

Cultivate altruism

Search for some volunteer activities. Most volunteers have a clear sense of purpose and meaning.  

Studies found that spending time on others makes people feel highly effective and capable, which has the effect of expanding time. 

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You're doing your weekend wrong

You're doing your weekend wrong

https://qz.com/1012585/the-best-weekend-activities-are-most-likely-not-the-ones-youre-currently-doing/

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Doing your weekend wrong

Just because you didn’t work last weekend doesn’t mean you had a good weekend.

If you don’t feel rejuvenated and keen to face Monday after two work-free days, you're doing your weekend wrong.

2 types of leisure

  • Casual leisure: short-lived, immediately gratifying, and often passive; it includes activities like drinking, online shopping, and the aforementioned binge-watching.
  • Serious leisure: meaningful, challenging activities that cause you to grow as a person.

The instinct for leisure

We need to be as vigilant about the quality of our free time as we are about the quality of our work.

In a live-to-work society, where your career is also your identity and status, the instinct for leisure atrophies. Paradoxically, then, getting a good weekend means working at leisure.

Socialize

Socializing strengthens the immune system and boosts mental health, reducing depression. 

Passive, solo leisure activities like tending to social feeds and playing video games reinforce absence in lives already starved for presence. Digital networks are not the same as human networks, and they won’t provide the same benefits as a real community.

Cultivate a hobby

Hobbies have been proven to reduce stress and loneliness, and senior citizens with hobbies may be less susceptible to dementia.

Deep engagement in an activity unleashes the “flow” state, which arises from immersion and mastery so intense that time seems to drop away.

Cultivate altruism

Search for some volunteer activities. Most volunteers have a clear sense of purpose and meaning.  

Studies found that spending time on others makes people feel highly effective and capable, which has the effect of expanding time. 

Play

By definition, play is fluid and has no known outcome or necessary beginning and end. True play doesn’t try to tame time.

Expand your idea of play to include flirting, reading out loud to someone, daydreaming, and other purposeless and pleasurable moments.

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You first have to understand which of your needs are least satisfied by your work, then choose hobbies which fulfill these needs. If your work does not offer enough social interaction, pick a social pastime. If your job is not challenging, choose a hobby where you can learn new skills.

Enrichment Theory

Enrichment Theory offers a perspective from work psychology and points out that the skills and experiences we build in our free time can complement our work performance.

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It may seem counterintuitive, but the best way to get the most from a day off and feel rested and restored for coming back to work is to do more with your time, not less.

Binge-watching TV can make you feel more anxious, stressed, and impact your sleep.

Do nothing (on purpose)

Purposeful idleness is no small task. A few tips:

  • Start with small sessions and take the time to build up your endurance.
  • To help you do nothing, keep your devices out of reach (or out of the room) and re-orient your furniture away from the TV and out a window.
  • Try open-ended toys or games like kinetic sand that promote idleness.

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We don't need a lifehack to control our phone. We need values to ensure that technology serves us, and not the other way around.

Find out what you value in life. Then ask how technology supports those values. Set rules that work for them. If you don't, tech will fill that void by default.

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After you have redefined success, consider how you want to invest your time and energy. 

There will always be more work to be done, but make a choice to spend your time elsewhere: with family, friends, or in your community. And when you spend time with your family or friends, do so with undivided attention.

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It implies acknowledging and respecting the sacredness and uniqueness of each kind of person. Self-Actualization also necessitates full access to information, full knowledge of the truth, and being able to choose without fear or social pressure.

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Self-Transcendence

It involves advancing a cause greater and beyond the self, experiencing a drastic shift in perspective, beyond the confines of the self through the highest level of experience.

Self-transcenders have a completely selfless value system and are leaning towards serving humanity, with an eventual goal of transcending their ego.

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People who schedule fewer tasks get more done. It forces you to prioritize what’s most important.

Also, scheduling back-to-back items in your calendar doesn’t account for the unexpected. Emergencies will always pop up and if your calendar is packed too tightly, you won’t have the flexibility to handle a crisis without completely trashing your calendar for the foreseeable future.

Say “yes” to less

Instead of accepting every invite or request for help, be more selective so that you’re not spreading yourself too thin. 

The easiest way to do this is by only saying “yes” to the things that excite you or that serve a purpose.

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Rituals are important to maintain a positive connection. A ritual can be anything that makes you and your partner regularly turn towards each other, emotionally, physically or spiritually.


Rituals of connection form the pillars of this culture, making the bond stronger by reinforcing it.

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