Our mindset contains our ideas and views about life and it influences how we experience life. Creating a good-enough mindset and letting go of unrealistic expectations will help you cultivate a sense of wellbeing. The first step to feeling like you’re enough is changing your mindset and self-imposed expectations about yourself derived from past experiences. The rest is a process of changing the idea that you need to work harder for approval and using that energy to just be enough for yourself.

Change Your Mindset

Perfectionism thrives in the fear of failure and on externally imposed self-expectations. But obsessively trying to avoid failure is unfulfilling and can lead to failure, while other people don’t know what’s good or enough for you.To halt perfectionism, knowing who you are and what you value is vital. Knowing that, you can make the decision to be enough in every situation you face. And, in time, each situation will serve as a way to guide you toward your true self and free you from the need to be perfect.

Perfectionism And Sense Of Self

Letting go of what keeps you from self-acceptance will teach you that you aren’t what other people think, nor are you your pains, past, or emotions. It’s usually negative ideas about ourselves and hurtful self-talk that get in the way of who we want to be and push us towards perfectionism.

Learn To Let Go

Convincing yourself of how flawed you are won’t make things better. It’s important for you to remember that you are enough just as you are, the more you practice it, the more you’ll believe it.It will better serve you to focus on progress rather than perfection and on how far you’ve come instead of how far you have left to go.

Focusing Away From Perfectionism

We can’t feel totally satisfied with where we’re going until we can accept, acknowledge, and appreciate where we are. Make peace with where you are, and your journey toward something new will feel much more peaceful, rewarding, and satisfying.When we strive for perfection and huge successes, but fall short, we feel worthless. What we don’t seem to realize is that working toward our goals and being willing to put ourselves out there are accomplishments within themselves.

The Value Of Appreciating Effort

Self-reliance is gained through trials and errors while you go through life making and acting on your own decisions. Self-reliant people feel more in control of their environment, which increases their wellbeing. When what you do is in line with what you believe, your self-esteem and happiness grow. And the better you feel, the more confident and the less compelled you’ll feel to be perfect.

Build Self-Reliance. 

Try and solve your problems by yourself. People often share issues to get advice, be told what they need to do, and pass their anxiety on to others. As you become more aware of what you want, you’ll start knowing the next step to take in your life, and you’ll recognize that nobody has the answers. You know just as much as others; in fact, you know more than others do about what’s right for you.

Make Your Own Decisions. 

​ "Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life." - Anne Lamott You find yourself asking, "When will what I do be enough?" You wonder, "How do I know if I'm truly happy or just settling to be comfortable?"