Being assertive means learning to manage your energy, plan your approach and craft your message in a way that maximizes potential for the other person, to be open to receiving and accepting it.
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Give yourself space to come to terms with what you experienced before being able to consider what action to take next.
Get clear on your values. It’s important that you understand within yourself first, the nature and reason behind the battle you choose to fight.
Stepping into the other person’s perspective is not about dismissing your feelings or compromising your values and principles.
It helps you to communicate in a language the other person will understand.
Being assertive Is about boundary setting, not winning.
Part of being assertive is stating your boundaries and illustrating very clearly (with examples) the line the other parties should not cross.
No one is interested in an elaborate saga. Instead, ask a short, clear question on a subject in which the other person has expertise. They'll often be glad to help.
Follow up on an agreed time. If they tell you they’ll be busy until the fall, then don’t send them another message on July 31st. Wait until autumn starts and then send a polite note.
People who experience more positive emotions enjoy better relationships and are more resilient in response to negative events.
Be intentional about doing things that bring you joy. Practice gratitude, engage in acts of kindness, exercise and reminisce about positive experiences.