“Be Good Now, Don’t Have Bad Emotions, Bad Emotions Are Bad.”
In a survey Susan David conducted with over 70,000 people, she found that a third of us - a third! - either judge ourselves for having so-called "bad emotions," like sadness, anger or even grief, or actively try to push aside these feelings. We do this not only to ourselves, but also to people we love, like our children - we may inadvertently shame them out of emotions seen as negative, jump to a solution, and fail to help them to see these emotions as inherently valuable.
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Psychologist Susan David shares how the way we deal with our emotions shapes everything that matters: our actions, careers, relationships, health and happiness. In this deeply moving, humorous and potentially life-changing talk, she challenges a culture that prizes positivity over emotional truth and discusses the powerful strategies of emotional agility.
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