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Setting Unrealistic High Standards

Setting Unrealistic High Standards

Imposter syndrome normally occurs when there is a tension between two views: the standards you set yourself and how you assess yourself as doing.

The high standards you set yourself are a large part of the problem, as is the negative internal voice you use to motivate yourself. You expect that you need to be the best and do everything flawlessly in your career, relationships, and personal life.

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The Psychology of Feeling Like a Fraud

The Psychology of Feeling Like a Fraud

Family environment, family dynamics, and the way our parents raised us combine with our personality and our experience of the world to shape our belief system and give us a sense of who we are as a person. This means that what you learned as a child influences how you see and experience t...

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Thoughts Aren’t Facts

You may feel like an imposter, but that doesn’t mean you are one. Your thoughts and feelings are useful, but they only form part of the picture, especially when it comes to anything imposter syndrome-related.

When you hear the voice, remind yourself that the imposter's ...

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Overworking and Avoidance

  • Overworking. The feeling that you are a fraud inspires greater effort and conscientiousness because you imagine that everyone else is more capable and intelligent than you.
  • Avoidance. When you aspire to such high standards and have an overwhelming ...

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The Imposter Phenomenon

The Imposter Phenomenon

  • Imposter syndrome was first described by two clinical psychologists in 1978
  • They coined the term ‘imposter phenomenon’, a condition in which people believe they are not worthy of success and have a persistent belief in their lack o...

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Imposter Syndrome Is An Example Of Confirmation Bias

You decided a long time ago that you were a fraud and for years you’ve been building an argument in support of this in your head, ignoring any information that doesn’t fit and operating a strong bias against yourself. This unwavering belief is one of the biggest reasons you’re un...

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How We Downplay Our Success

How We Downplay Our Success

A few examples:

  • "I got lucky or it was a fluke"
  • "I’m a good actor, I fooled them"
  • "It’s because they like me, they’re being polite, or it’s a social courtesy"
  • "It sounds more impressive than it is"
  • "I had a l...

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What Triggers The Imposter Syndrome

  • Imposter syndrome can be triggered by any achievement or approval-related task or as a result of feeling insecure about your knowledge or skills, particularly when you work in a competitive atmosphere and when responsibilities increase.
  • It tends to be more in...

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The Competence Types

These are the internal rules that people with imposter syndrome generally follow:

  1. Perfectionists set excessively high standards for themselves and believe they should deliver always a perfect performance.
  2. Natural Geniuses strive to master any n...

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You Can’t Control Everything

When you see yourself as completely responsible for making everything go well, you take responsibility for anything that goes wrong.

Don't forget about the other people involved and their shared responsibility. And no matter how hard you try, there’s no route through li...

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Externalize the Imposter Voice

Externalize the Imposter Voice

You need to see that this is not your voice, but the voice of your fears.

The better you get at spotting the imposter voice in action, the more successfully the strategies will work

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How Confident People Approach Discomfort

Confident people do feel this discomfort and do experience some of the same fears. But they come to a different conclusion and this allows them to override their feelings.

Instead of interpreting their discomfort as meaning that they are imposters, they see it as a ...

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Talk to Other People

Talk to Other People

To really believe that how you feel is no different from the way other people feel you have to start talking more openly about what’s going on.

This is the only way for you to be sure that when others look confident and capable they may not feel that way all the time.

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Imposter Syndrome Is All About Fear

Imposter Syndrome Is All About Fear

Imposters fear being found out or not being good enough so strongly that they do not question their fear. If what you believe is true, then you’re right to be scared: being found out, failing, the humiliation that comes with what you imagine – these are terrifying. 

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Compassion: The Antidote to Self-Criticism

Compassion: The Antidote to Self-Criticism

Having compassion for yourself is really no different from having it for others. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes and it’s OK to feel stressed or sad. Pain and suffering are part of our shared human experience; they are just a reaction to what’s going on in our life.

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