Our emotions are an integral part of our lives. They protect us by alerting us to danger. They add color to our lives and help us find meaning to our existence. In my forthcoming book, I compare our control center to a media player.
The pause button. Create a habit of thoughtful action. Train yourself to take a moment to stop and think before you act or speak.
Volume control. Train yourself to recognise when your volume is starting to go up.
The tuning dial. As you'd change the film or change the channel, instead of focusing on what you're going to say next, tune in to the other person and listen carefully with the goal to truly understand them.
Mute. Hit the mute button if the other person is in a highly emotional state because sharing your point of view won't help at that moment.
Record. As you stay on mute, focus on mentally recording key points they're willing to share to help you learn more about their perspective.
Playback. Emotionally charged discussions are often rooted in deep-seated issues. Revisit the topic once both parties have had the time to cool down.
Fast forward. Think about the effects your actions will have in the long run.
It turns out that you can train yourself to better understand your own emotions, control them and make other people want to work with you more.This sort of training creates more successful employees and managers. So much so that Google sponsored a program to help increase the emotional intelligence...