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The '3-second rule' of eye contact

Give everyone in your audience at least 3 seconds of continuous eye contact before moving to the next person. This is usually enough to make people feel included in a conversation.

The '3-second rule' is a great and simple way to engage your audience and convey a sense of ease with it, even when you're feeling nervous.

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  1. Adjust your body language.
  2. Learn to handle friendly teasing.
  3. Tell your own embarrassing stories.
  4. Let go of managing people's opinions of you.

By simply adjusting your body language, you can improve both how you see yourself (thus, improving your self-confidence) and how other people see you.

... and gesticulate while you're speaking.

Hiding your hands and palms usually signals to your audience that you are hiding something, thus making you look less trustworthy.

Using your hands also makes your stories and arguments seem more intriguing.

Embrace the awkward moment fully. By doing this, you show true confidence.

The fear of looking ridiculous and being judged by others freezes your emotions and expressions, amplifying your discomfort in front of others.

  • Take up more space: this signals that you are not afraid to take control on a physical level and it shows increased confidence.
  • Laugh with the group: if you laugh with it, it goes away in most cases.
  • Double down on the joke: amplifying the joke puts you in control of the situation, shows your human side and spreads the laughter.
  • Show confident body language, especially if the story is self-deprecating.
  • Use high impact words, packed with emotions, to draw people's attention.
  • Embody the characters of the story (act like they would and match their voice and accent).

99% of all awkward situations are made worse because you are trying to be perceived in a certain way by the others.

Stop managing people's opinions of you. Your confidence should not be based on those outside perceptions, but in recognizing that you are not perfect and liking yourself anyway.

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... without making enemies:
  • Make sure you communicate you are not there to fight (using your tone of voice, for example).
  • Avoid making statements; instead, ask questions.
  • Defend yourself with confidence, but without coming across as antagonistic.

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Understand That Life Happens in Cycles

Change is the only constant, this means that life never stays the same and is always going thorugh cycles or seasons. 

"This too shall pass"

Whatever you're going through know that it will pass. Just stay patient and persevere through this season. 

If you only knew day but never knew night you would take the sun for granted. It's because you know night that you can appreciate the day, same with your emotions ( Highs and lows)

Action Dissolves Fear

You want to feel the fear and do it anyway.

When you're sitting there doing nothing, only thinking, you allow your thoughts and your fears to run how you feel about yourself.

When you are not taking action, you live more in your mind. It's all really an illusion in your mind. 

When you're taking action, you're focused on the external world and it kind of takes your mind off things because you're focused on taking action.