Give everyone in your audience at least 3 seconds of continuous eye contact before moving to the next person. This is usually enough to make people feel included in a conversation.
The '3-second rule' is a great and simple way to engage your audience and convey a sense of ease with it, even when you're feeling nervous.

The '3-second rule' of eye contact

<ul>
<li>Adjust your body language.</li>
<li>Learn to handle friendly teasing.</li>
<li>Tell your own embarrassing stories.</li>
<li>Let go of managing people's opinions of you.</li>
</ul>

Turn awkwardness into confidence

... and gesticulate while you're speaking.
Hiding your hands and palms usually signals to your audience that you are hiding something, thus making you look less trustworthy.
Using your hands also makes your stories and arguments seem more intriguing.

Show your palms

<ul>
<li>Take up more space: this signals that you are not afraid to take control on a physical level and it shows increased confidence.</li>
<li>Laugh with the group: if you laugh with it, it goes away in most cases.</li>
<li>Double down on the joke: amplifying the joke puts you in control of the situation, shows your human side and spreads the laughter.</li>
</ul>

Handling friendly teasing

99% of all awkward situations are made worse because you are trying to be perceived in a certain way by the others.
Stop managing people's opinions of you. Your confidence should not be based on those outside perceptions, but in recognizing that you are not perfect and liking yourself anyway.

People's perceptions of you

By simply adjusting your body language, you can improve both how you see yourself (thus, improving your self-confidence) and how other people see you.

Body language and self-confidence

Embrace the awkward moment fully. By doing this, you show true confidence.
The fear of looking ridiculous and being judged by others freezes your emotions and expressions, amplifying your discomfort in front of others.

Commit to what you are expressing

<ul>
<li>Show confident body language, especially if the story is self-deprecating.</li>
<li>Use high impact words, packed with emotions, to draw people's attention.</li>
<li>Embody the characters of the story (act like they would and match their voice and accent).</li>
</ul>

Telling your own embarrassing stories

Check Out Charisma University: https://bit.ly/2XcFYEf Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Like it or not we have all been awkward at different points in our lives. Sometimes that awkwardness gets in the way of connecting with other people or even feeling confident in ourselves. Awkwardness doesn’t need to be the end of the line. In fact, if you handle yourself well you can turn awkwardness (whether it’s just a moment or a way of being) into confidence. Which is what we are covering in this video featuring Tom Holland. ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:27 - Point #1: Adjust your body language. 4:05 - Point #2: Handle friendly teasing. 6:39 - Point #3: Tell your own embarrassing stories. 9:37 - Point #4: Let go of managing people’s opinion of you. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #TomHolland #CharismaOnCommand -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Instagram: @IamBenAltman

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Like it or not we have all been awkward at different points in our lives. Sometimes that awkwardness gets in the way of connecting with other people or even feeling confident in ourselves. Awkwardness doesn’t need to be the end of the line. In fact, if you handle yourself well you can turn awkwardness (whether it’s just a moment or a way of being) into confidence. Which is what we are covering in this video featuring Tom Holland.


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 
0:27 - Point #1: Adjust your body language.
4:05 - Point #2: Handle friendly teasing.
6:39 - Point #3: Tell your own embarrassing stories.
9:37 - Point #4: Let go of managing people’s opinion of you.

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#TomHolland #CharismaOnCommand
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