Directing your attention

• There is only one thing that causes unhappiness. It's attachment. Attachments to a specific person, place, time, job or a lifestyle.
• Attachments are what make it so hard to accept change. Once we have them, we don't want to let go. We become slaves to maintaining the status quo.

• The single most important practice in Stoic philosophy is differentiation between what we can change and what we can't. What we have influence over and what we do not.
• There's something called Serenity prayer: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the cou...

You can influence people and circumstances, but you can't force things to go your way:

• To have the most influence, focus on changing your behavior. Be a good role model and set healthy boundaries for yourself.
• When you have concerns about someone else's choices, share yo...