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Underlying Reasons for Passive-Aggressive Communication

Underlying Reasons for Passive-Aggressive Communication

There are many reasons people communicate passive-aggressively. This type of behaviour can arise when someone doesn’t feel comfortable or capable of expressing their feelings in an open, honest, straightforward manner.

Some people struggle to communicate clearly and directly or don’t feel equipped to articulate their feelings—or equipped to articulate them without blowing up. 


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'Fine. Whatever.'

'Fine. Whatever.'

Use this instead: I don’t feel good about this. Can we talk about it in person?

These words are contradictory, indicating that it’s both OK and that you’re dismissing it at the same time. A statement that’s both assertive (“I don’t feel . . . ”) and emotionally honest reduc...


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Passive-Aggressive Communication

Passive-Aggressive Communication

Passive-aggressive behaviour surfaces in different ways. It is sometimes used with the intent of secretly getting back at the person or group on the receiving end; other times, the passive aggression is not deliberate. It might present through body language, like eye-rolling, exaggerated sighs, o...


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I’ve Copied [Boss] On This Email

I’ve Copied [Boss] On This Email

Use this instead: I’m excited to work together to find the best solution.

Bringing in a manager should not be the first resort for working out conflict. This alternative signals that you’re willing to problem-solve with your coworker, and it promotes team cooperation. It’s ...


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Five Common Phrases That Sound Passive-Aggressive: 'Per My Last Email'

Five Common Phrases That Sound Passive-Aggressive: 'Per My Last Email'

Some passive-aggressive comments are so subtle that you might not realize they can be received as passive-aggression. Below are a few widely used passive-aggressive communication examples, including ways to reword to avoid misunderstanding.

Per my last email

Use this instead:...


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'It’s Not That Complicated'

'It’s Not That Complicated'

Use this instead: I can clarify. Which part is confusing?

Although a report or situation might be clear for you, not everyone will comprehend it the way you do. This alternative statement is effective because it doesn’t undermine the other person’s intelligence; instead, it...


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The Bottom Line

The Bottom Line

Leaning on passive-aggressive language in professional communication might feel like a safe way to circumvent potential conflict with a coworker. However, hiding feelings of anger and frustration can grow into bigger conflicts in the workplace.

Consider giving your messages a close read to...


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How to Soften Passive-Aggressive Communication

How to Soften Passive-Aggressive Communication

While the above section highlights common instances of passive-aggressive communication, catching passive-aggressive language in all of your emails or internal memos can be challenging.

One way to vet your communication is by asking yourself two questions: “How would I feel if I were on th...


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The Effect On Others

The Effect On Others

Passive-aggressive behaviour can be intensely frustrating for the targeted person or people because it’s hard to identify, difficult to prove, and may even be unintentional. Passive aggression can lead to more conflict and mistrust because it prevents people from having a direct and honest conver...


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Being Passive-Aggressive

Being Passive-Aggressive

In many life situations, including in the workplace, feelings of frustration and anger can surface. The desire to avoid confrontation and stifle these emotions is a common response. However, when those strong feelings are left unaddressed, they can manifest as passive-aggressive communication. 


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'For Future Reference'

'For Future Reference'

Use this instead: What do you think about trying XYZ instead?

“For future reference . . .” assumes that the recipient is

a) aware of the reference you’re making and

b) that your approach or insight is the only correct course of action.

Asking for their ...


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