<ol><li>The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience. </li><li>When you care less about something, you do better at it. </li><li>Avoidance of the suffering is a form of suffering. </li><li>You can’t be an important and life changing presence for some people without being a joke and an embarrassment to others. </li><li>When person has no problem, mind automatically finds way to invent some. </li><li>It’s okay for things to suck sometimes. </li><li>Some suffering is always inevitable. </li></ol>

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<ol><li>Instead of looking to be right all the time, we should be looking for how we’re wrong all the time. </li><li>Being wrong opens up to the possibility for change. </li><li>Our brain is a meaning machine. </li><li>Meaning is generated by the associations our brain makes between two or more experiences. </li><li>Our brain is designed to be efficient not accurate. </li><li>The more you try to be certain about something, the more uncertain and insecure you will feel. </li><li>The more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don’t know. </li></ol>

<ol><li>Pain is what teaches us what to pay attention when we are careless or young. </li><li>Life is essentially an endless series of problems. </li><li>Solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one. </li><li>Happiness comes from solving problem. </li><li>Nobody who is actually happy has to stand in-front of the mirror and tell himself that he’s happy. </li><li>You can’t win , if you don’t play. </li><li>Who you are is defined by what you are willing to struggle for. </li><li>If everyone were extraordinary, then by definition no one would be extraordinary. </li><li>The way you choose to measure the value defines everything. </li></ol>

Lessons 2 

<ol><li>Commitment gives you freedom because you are no longer distracted by the unimportant and frivolous. </li><li>Depth is where the gold is buried. </li><li>Death is the only thing we can know with any certainty. </li><li>Happiness comes from the same thing ; caring about something greater than yourself.  </li></ol>

<ol><li>We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at. </li><li>Just as one must suffer physical pain to build stronger bone and muscle , one must suffer emotional pain to develop greater emotional resilience, a stronger sense of self , increased compassion, and a generally happier life. </li><li>Don’t sit there. Do something. The answer will follow. </li><li>Action isn’t just a effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it. </li></ol>

<ol><li>The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it. </li><li>I say don't find yourself. I say never know who you are. Because that's what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the difference in others. </li><li>Letting go is so liberating.  </li><li>Define yourself in the simplest and the most ordinary ways possible. </li><li>Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you have failed at something. </li></ol>

<ol><li>“ Do something “ principle:- if you lack the motivation to make an important change in your life, do something- anything, really-and then harness the reaction to that action as a way to begin motivating yourself. </li><li>Absolute freedom, by itself, means nothing. </li><li>To value X, we must reject non-X. </li><li>Rejection is an important and crucial life skill. </li><li>Part of having honesty in our lives is becoming comfortable with saying and hearing the word “ no “. </li><li>The options we are given, the less satisfied we become with whatever we choose. Because we’re aware of all the other options we’re potentially forfeiting. </li></ol>

Lessons 8

<ol><li>Our values determine the metrics by which we measure ourselves and everyone else. </li><li>If you want to change how you see the problems, you have to change what you value and how you measure failure and success. </li><li>Emotions are just feedbacks. </li><li>Better values -> better f*ck -> better problem -> better life. </li><li>The only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it. </li><li>Whether we like it or not , we are always taking an active role in what’s occurring to and within us. </li></ol>

Lessons 3 

<ol><li>“ With great power comes great responsibility “ :- uncle ben, aunt may.</li><li>We are responsible for experience that aren’t our fault all the time. </li><li>Fault is past tense and responsibility is present tense. </li><li>To simple blame others is only to hurt yourself. </li><li>These are necessary, though painful, side effects of choosing to place your fucks elsewhere , in a place far more important and more worthy of your energies. </li><li>When we learn something new , we don’t go from wrong to right rather we go from wrong to slightly less wrong. </li></ol>

This is also one among the books which helps to come out of the circle of life and have another perspective. One of the life changing, life improving and most importantly life improvising book. You should give a fuck about this book. 

#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 10 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

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#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

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