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A recent study showed that men overestimate how good-looking they are to women. Women, on the other hand, think they are less attractive to men, which is not the case.
People who think they are highly attractive may incorrectly assume that the other person is sexually interested in them.
Men look for signs or attraction more than women do, like it has always been. Men initiate the love and take the lead, deciding to move out of a platonic relationship faster than women.
Platonic friendships with the opposite sex have their benefits:
Unconsciously, we tend to choose charming opposite-sex friends, and it is the first step towards later getting interested in a romantic way with the same friend, ending the platonism.
This trait of preferring attractive opposite-sex friends is found more in men.
Both men and women are biologically programmed to desire a long-term partnership, and at the same time, they are also willing to be involved in a short-term fling or a sexual encounter.
Your reasons for developing self-sabotaging behaviors most likely spring from an understandable and human place.
The way out of it is to have insight into who you are in a relationship. Your partner will also have a chance to get to know you, and together you can break the pattern to sabotage.
Our own partner preferences may not be fully understood by us.