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Is there such a thing as the 'friend-zone'?
Romantic Risk-Takers
Both men and women are biologically programmed to desire a long-term partnership, and at the same time, they are also willing to be involved in a short-term fling or a sexual encounter.
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Friend-zoning
Friend-zoning is a notion that men and women have different perspectives.
Men are more frequently attracted to their opposite-sex friends, even if they state that it's just a platonic relationship.
We Don't Know Ourselves
A recent study showed that men overestimate how good-looking they are to women. Women, on the other hand, think they are less attractive to men, which is not the case.
People who think they are highly attractive may incorrectly assume that the other person is sexually interested in them.
Taking The Lead
Men look for signs or attraction more than women do, like it has always been. Men initiate the love and take the lead, deciding to move out of a platonic relationship faster than women.
Platonic Friendships
Platonic friendships with the opposite sex have their benefits:
- Protection and security.
- Giving and taking advice on how to attract partners.
Biased From The Beginning
Unconsciously, we tend to choose charming opposite-sex friends, and it is the first step towards later getting interested in a romantic way with the same friend, ending the platonism.
This trait of preferring attractive opposite-sex friends is found more in men.
Romantic Risk-Takers
Both men and women are biologically programmed to desire a long-term partnership, and at the same time, they are also willing to be involved in a short-term fling or a sexual encounter.
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