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Connor K.
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Happiness and Marriage
Our delusion of happiness (as in 'happily ever after') is a big culprit in our wrong decisions and misery.
Marriage doesn't mean that the romance, the happiness or the beautiful time will last past a few months or years. Happiness is fleeting, and understanding its impermanence can work wonders on our expectations.
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