The antidote to inflexible thinking is balance
Many people are bad at creating diverse, well-balanced networks. They struggle to listen to opposite voices and change their minds.
One reason is that we are hardwired to divide the world into "us" and "them's." And not to be like the "them's".
- Studies show that the best way to turn "them's" into "us's" is to take somebody else's perspective. Try to go through what somebody else's rationalisations are.
- Individuate somebody. Do they like the same pets you do? Do they love their kids like you or sing lullabies to them?
- Give people enough contact around a shared goal, and they'll turn into "us's".
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