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Confrontation
Take NOTHING personal
Challenging what is said and defending yourself against empty allegations means you accept the narrative that has been set for you.
It is better to be less reactive and maintain self-control. The less you have to defend or explain yourself the more confident you seem.
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Body Language
Control the frame with how you talk together with your actions.
• Set the tone so that the other person is reactive e.g BIG AND BOLD in your introductions
• Take your time in reacting to the situation, don't let the situation dictate how you respond. This requires self-control, self-d...
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Tone
Upward inflection: express an invitation or indicates nervousness
Downward inflection: expresses commands and indicates certainty
• Introduce yourself to the frame with HIGH ENERGY i.e greetings
• Be slow and less reactive when dealing with c...
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Frames
When you frame a conversation,
•you explain why you want to discuss a particular issue
• you explain intentions and desired
outcomes for resolving the disagreement,
•Explain the significance of your
relationship.
Frames dictate the rules of the inter...
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Effortless Impression
Have an abundance mindset. Set the belief that no person or one event is more important than the other as this is the EGO talking.
Consider your conversations as an opportunity for partnership rather than a zero-sum game. As much as people are lucky to work with you, you are lucky to work w...
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Always have options
Practice negotiating when you don't have to negotiate. In these situations, you are less needy therefore coming across as less desperate.
The person with the better option always wins therefore create other options for yourself.
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2. Let your walls down
When we see something we don't immediately like in ourselves, our first reaction could be to defend ourselves from it, which is partly why self-awareness is so challenging.
Try to let go of judgment and the instinctual urge to protect yourself.
- You become sel...
The Discover-Defend Axis
You’re constantly moving along a discover-defend axis in your daily life, as your brain scans for threats to defend against and rewards to discover.
- In defensive mode, you become less smart and flexible, as your brain devotes some of its scarce mental energy to respond...
Profound vs superficial minimalism
- The minimalism of things argues that getting rid of possessions means ridding yourself of trouble.
- The minimalism of ideas means stripping away excess to see that the world is more troubled and difficult, and more wondrous and full of possibility.
The quest...
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