Mental Strength Quote #2

If you answered A, B or E:

Your mental fitness level matches most people. You’re at the starting line — and that’s okay! Strengthening your mental muscles takes time.

If you chose E, you’re still in beginner’s mode. It is likely that you’re dealing wi...

Here are some helpful lenses to adopt:

• Collaborative lens: This is the “I win when you win” approach. Maybe everyone doesn’t get everything they want, but they all walk away feeling heard and included.
• Possibility lens: This lens allows you to take a step back and temporarily s...

Most of us think that our beliefs are truths. But they are actually a set of assumptions, which means that we can experiment with them. We can probe them, challenge them and try to think of new ones.

Use the quick quiz to get a general sense of your mental strength level.

We underestimate the immense power that we have over our physical state when we are distressed or upset in some way, and how to alter it in general.

The truth is that we can influence our own nervous systems. On the one hand, unhelpfully, we can easily intensify a catabolic state, such as “...

“The ability to continue moving when you are feeling scared, fearful or lazy is the sign of true mental strength.”

-Matthew Donnelly

If you’re like most people, you’re focused on proving that your position is the right one. But when you’re able to see many disparate viewpoints, you have the ability to understand and consider perspectives that aren’t aligned with yours.

When you appreciate and allow for differences in opi...

Can you accurately self-assess your internal state? This is the running commentary in your head, the moods and emotions you feel, and the physical sensations you have, like a knot in your stomach.

Let’s say you’re in a really bad mood. That’s vague. But if you have strong self-assessment mu...

D. “I no longer get triggered in an upsetting scenario.” You are aware of what has happened, but it is mostly a “nonevent” to you.

E. “None of the above apply to me.” Either you’re not sure how you handle your triggers, or you don’t think you get triggered ...

When we want to become more physically fit, we work our bodies, sometimes concentrating on specific muscles, such as our biceps or quads. We can do the same with our mental fitness.

While a good amount of successful people have already mastered these muscles, most people aren’t there yet:

A. “I stay triggered.” Whatever is bothering you lingers, or at some point you just move on.

B. “I can get myself out of the triggered reaction.” But it takes a while, and that sense of relief doesn’t last very long; your reaction comes back shortly.

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You’d be surprised at how many people incorrectly think they’ve already mastered this one. Personal accountability doesn’t have to do with everyday actions like showing up for work or taking your kids to baseball practice on time.

It functions on a much more radical level:

• You st...