1. Most of the advice online was only best for the relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend(dating). They won't do so much in achieving the goal of marriage like building a peaceful home, keeping the family together, understanding and taking up the roles and responsibilities of h...

For example, a feminist would give marriage advice that pushes the feminist idea than give advice on how to make the marriage work fine for the couples. Hey, I don't have anything against feminists. I just... Okay never mind.

So when I wasn't satisfied with the advice I got online I decided...

1. Know the kind of person your partner is.

Knowing your partner is necessary, especially before marriage. Because it shows you a clear picture of what the marriage will be like. It answers questions like;

Am I safe with this person? Will this person give me peace? Is...

Knowing all these about them doesn't mean you know the kind of person they are, it only means that you have information about them.

Knowing someone you want to marry should go beyond having information about them. You should be able to define the kind of person they are. You should know the...

Can I and this person coexist peacefully? And so on

The answers to these questions will give you a clear picture of what the marriage will be like. And then you can choose if that's the kind of marriage you want or not.

However, some people get it wrong. When you ask them if they know...

And sometimes you think you know your partner well enough to get married to them. But soon after marriage, they become an entirely different person to you. And you'd be like "This is not the person I married". Yea that's exactly the person you married. What happened was that you relied on what th...

The primary goal of a marriage is to start a loving family and build a peaceful and happy home with the person you love, and be happy, peaceful, respected, loved, and feel safe in that home. But this can't be achieved if the family's well-being is not in place. And if it's not achieved then the m...

Because if it's not you might fail in your duty to take care of the family's wellbeing.

How do you take care of your family's well-being?

By nurturing the family and providing for the needs of the family. It should be shared as a responsibility between you and your pa...

Although, I feel the father and mother can take up any of the responsibilities. But if we are defining it as roles, the mother should ensure the home is well nurtured and the father should work his butt off to make sure the family doesn't lack their needs and wants.

Women are making it clea...

But if your career won't allow you to carry out your role as a mother and a wife, it will negatively affect your family's well-being. So my advice is, don't get married or start a family if your career will not allow you to be there for your family.

3. Keep building your home till y...

So don't ever stop trying to know your partner more and don't ever stop putting your family's well-being ahead of every other thing. This way, your marriage will work fine.

This is how it is in my family. My parents took their time to know each other before their marriage and they won't put...

My family has never come close to being broken. And In 23yrs of my life, I've never heard or seen my parents argue or fight. So far, their relationship has been an amazing joy ride. Not that they didn't have some marriage issues in the past, they did. But they stuck together, fight it, and overca...

"It's either my marriage works fine or I don't get married at all". That was a promise I made to myself from the first time I saw partners of a marriage relationship that didn't work fine. They were ready to break up the marriage. And they were expressing their regret for getting married. I look...