“We’re instinctively drawn to people who are modest, agreeable, polite, kind . . . in short, to people who are genuinely likeable”. No one is an island. We all need to build relationships that can motivate us to achieve our personal goals. As human beings, we are instinctively drawn to people who are modest, polite, kind and have commonalities with us - in short, genuinely likable people.

Building relationships that motivate you to do better

“You get to choose your goal—but after that, what you want to do is irrelevant. What matters is what you need to do to achieve your goal”. Many of us have the misconception that it is our goal that determines our process. That isn’t true.  Instead, the process you chose determines whether or not you will succeed in achieving your goals. The process is more like what you need to do to succeed.

Your process determines your goal

“Work too hard on one area of your business and other areas suffer. Work too hard on any one aspect of your life and other aspects suffer”. It is important to have multiple goals in both your personal and financial life if you desire to succeed and to be happy. Do not allow room for regrets by not exploiting your skills and taking advantage of the opportunities that come your way just because you want to be seen as a highly specialized individual. You need to set the best goals that can benefit you on multiple levels, resulting in happiness. This will also eliminate the pain of regrets in life.

The relationship between serial achievements and happiness

“Actually, motivation is a result. Motivation is the pride you take in work you have already done—which fuels your willingness to do even more”. Many of us feel that we need to be motivated to start working towards our goals. That’s probably because we see motivation as a precondition to success, which isn’t the case. Motivation is something you get from yourself automatically after achieving your goals, no matter how small they are.

Demystifying motivation

Let’s do so in a way that helps you develop an attribute most people feel they struggle with - willpower - and, in the process, make willpower irrelevant.

Willpower and productivity

Sometimes what we need is right guidance at right time. Here are some common motivational myth Busters 

From Inc.com's most popular columnist, a counterintuitive--but highly practical--guide to finding and maintaining the motivation to achieve great things. It's comforting to imagine that superstars in their fields were just born better equipped than the rest of us. When a co-worker loses 20 pounds, or a friend runs a marathon while completing a huge project at work, we assume they have more grit, more willpower, more innate talent, and above all, more motivation to see their goals through. But that's not at actually true, as popular Inc.com columnist Jeff Haden proves. "Motivation" as we know it is a myth. Motivation isn't the special sauce that we require at the beginning of any major change. In fact, motivation is a result of process, not a cause. Understanding this will change the way you approach any obstacle or big goal. Haden shows us how to reframe our thinking about the relationship of motivation to success. He meets us at our level--at the beginning of any big goal we have for our lives, a little anxious and unsure about our way forward, a little burned by self help books and strategies that have failed us in the past—and offers practical advice that anyone can use to stop stalling and start working on those dreams. Haden takes the mystery out of accomplishment, proving that success isn't about spiritual awakening or a lightning bolt of inspiration --as Tony Robbins and adherents of The Secret believe--but instead, about clear and repeatable processes. Using his own advice, Haden has consistently drawn 2 million readers a month to his posts, completed a 107-mile long mountain bike race, and lost 10 pounds in a month. Success isn't for the uniquely-qualified; it's possible for any person who understands the true nature of motivation. Jeff Haden can help you transcend average and make lasting positive change in your life.

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From Inc.com's most popular columnist, a counterintuitive--but highly practical--guide to finding and maintaining the motivation to achieve great things.   It's comforting to imagine that superstars in their fields were just born better equipped than the rest of us. When a co-worker loses 20 pounds, or a friend runs a marathon while completing a huge project at work, we assume they have more grit, more willpower, more innate talent, and above all, more motivation to see their goals through.   But that's not at actually true, as popular Inc.com columnist Jeff Haden proves. "Motivation" as we know it is a myth. Motivation isn't the special sauce that we require at the beginning of any major change. In fact, motivation is a result of process, not a cause. Understanding this will change the way you approach any obstacle or big goal.   Haden shows us how to reframe our thinking about the relationship of motivation to success. He meets us at our level--at the beginning of any big goal we have for our lives, a little anxious and unsure about our way forward, a little burned by self help books and strategies that have failed us in the past—and offers practical advice that anyone can use to stop stalling and start working on those dreams.   Haden takes the mystery out of accomplishment, proving that success isn't about spiritual awakening or a lightning bolt of inspiration --as Tony Robbins and adherents of The Secret believe--but instead, about clear and repeatable processes. Using his own advice, Haden has consistently drawn 2 million readers a month to his posts, completed a 107-mile long mountain bike race, and lost 10 pounds in a month.   Success isn't for the uniquely-qualified; it's possible for any person who understands the true nature of motivation. Jeff Haden can help you transcend average and make lasting positive change in your life.

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