Mental Strategies

• Give something - (It doesn't have to be big - you can give approval, an encouraging text, a dollar, a chance)

• When worry hits, say out loud: I will not worry about the things I cannot control. Sounds simple, but doing this involves your thinking, hearing and speaking so it's a triple wh...

We have two mental systems that work side by side whenever we are thinking about something or feeling a certain way, these two systems are intentional and monitoring systems.

• The former orients our attention to focus on our tasks or...

Perhaps the best way for women to reduce the mental load is to do less. If the mother stops thinking about what needs to be done and the father does not anticipate these needs, it may initially cause stress or judgement – but that could allow learning for next time. 

Over time, doing less c...