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<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Instructions: Name the best thing you will do today but spell it out letter by letter; pause between the words. Let your partner do the same.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Purpose: You will learn to slow down and listen.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When you focus and listen, you can't be thinking ahead and you will automatically give a better response.</li></ul>

#3: Spell Things Out

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Acknowledge your own emotions as well as those of your audience.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Reframe and explain.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use engagement activities and variety, ask questions.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use conversational language such as "we/you" instead of "I".</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Paraphrase the questions to get time.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use humor: Self-deprecating humor is the least risky.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Have a backup plan if it doesnt work.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">"Why" is the most important question.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Make people give advice.</li></ul>

Other Tips

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Tell a story and use structures.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Structured information increases processing fluency: People retain information 40% more reliably and better.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Never lose your audience.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Structure sets you free.</li></ul>Ideas for structures: <ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Problem/opportunity, solution, benefit.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What? So what? Now what?</li></ol>

Use Structures

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Get out of your own way.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Dare to be dull so you can reach greatness.</li></ul>

Ground Rules

Play the following games with a partner as they will help you speak more confidently in spontaneous situations.

Games

Make your audience comfortable by managing your anxiety<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Greet your anxiety by saying "this is me being anxious".</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Reframe the situation: See it as an opportunity rather than a threat; change the way you approach it.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Orientation of time: Be in the present moment and don't think about future consequences. Physical activity, listening to music or speaking tongue twisters before you speak can help.</li></ul>

Managing Anxiety

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Instructions: Point with your finger at a random object and shout the wrong name (for example: point at a table and scream "bird"). Make sure to not use patterns; don't use words from the same category.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Purpose: This game helps you to get out of your own way and to solve problems.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We are planning to get it right but theres is no way to actually get it right.</li></ul>

#1: Shout The Wrong Name

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Instructions: Give your partner an imaginary gift (but you don't know what is inside). They name what is inside. Then you tell them why you gifted it to them.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Purpose: You will learn to speak spontaneously.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Use "yes and" instead of "no but"</li></ul>

#2: Give A Gift

Learn to speak more confidently in spontaneous situations and improve your public speaking skills by using the following tips and games.

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#2: Give A Gift

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#3: Spell Things Out

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