Our Partner’s Gift-Giving Language
If the gifts love language doesn't come naturally to you, you should still learn the language if your partner speaks it.
Look at things in your daily life from a gift-giving perspective. It doesn't have to be expensive, just little reminders that they're always on your mind. If you know someone who speaks gifts as their love language, then not getting them a gift on a special occasion would be very hurtful to them, as would approaching the gift-giving as more a chore than an opportunity.
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Author Gary Chapman developed the theory that there are five basic ways romantic partners give and receive love.
The five love languages are:
- Physical touch
- Quality time
- Acts of service, such as cooking a meal or cleaning the car.
- Words of affirmation, such as verbal praise, compliments, and expressions of love.
- Gift-giving ranging from small tokens to surprise deliveries.
The majority of us have one or two dominant love languages, but each of us speaks all five languages to some degree. By learning how to 'speak' each other's preferred love language, you're ensuring both of you feel supported and seen.
We often speak the love language to our partners that we ourselves want to receive.
If your partner's love language is gifts, they'll put the item on display or wear it every day, But the surest way to find out if your partner's love language is gifts is to ask them.
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It refers to the idea that we all give and receive love differently. The five languages are:
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Physical touch
The idea is: we all express and feel love differently, and understanding those differences can seriously help your relationships.
We all show affection in different ways. These “languages” simply label those ways so you can understand people a little better.
If you equate love and worth with things and giving, it doesn't mean you have to repeat the pattern. You have the autonomy and agency to decide what feels okay for you.
Love, care, and appreciation can be shown in other ways, such as a phone call or a glass of wine with your partner over dinner. People feel happier when they're making a real connection.