Identifying the hidden dimension under the relationship fight can affect how we fight and how we move forward.

• Power and control fights: "You undermine me with the kids."/ "Because I make less money, I feel like I have to check with you before I buy anything."

When a friend, family member or colleague makes a rude comment and then says," I'm just honest," you may feel inclined to accept their words. Don't. If you know them to be genuine, you will know when to be open to their feedback.

Comments about how you wore the wrong dress...

• Turn your mind away from the things that provoke it. If you find discussing politics at home leads to fighting or your siblings choices bother you, why don't you stop making these choices your concern?
• It's not a sign of weakness to shut them out. Instead, it's a sign of strong will...