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When someone is judgmental or critical of you
When a friend, family member or colleague makes a rude comment and then says," I'm just honest," you may feel inclined to accept their words. Don't. If you know them to be genuine, you will know when to be open to their feedback.
Comments about how you wore the wrong dress or how bad your hair looks, say something like:
- "I don't recall asking you."
- "What you call 'honesty,' I call 'giving me unsolicited criticism.' Please don't."
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When a line has been crossed
When someone has crossed a line, you should open up the conversation alerting the other person to your feelings, concerns, or objections.
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- "I thought you should know..."
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When someone is giving you unsolicited advice
- If you want to share something with a friend or colleague who likes to offer their opinion, say: "I want to share what's going on and would appreciate it if you can listen without offering advice or criticism."
- Another way to stop auto-advice: "At ...
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What to say to deflect nosy questions
You don't owe anyone personal information, especially not to satisfy their curiosity.
- To someone asking how much money you earn: " Trust me, not even close to what I'm worth."
- To someone who asks about your love life: "I'd rather not talk ab...
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When someone asks you something you're unsure about
Here are a few ways to buy yourself more time to assess the situation.
- "I need a minute to regroup. Can we talk about this in an hour?"
- "Can we chat about this later today, after I've had some time to consider it?"
- To a friend who wants you to go to a dinner...
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#4. What to say when someone is judgmental or critical
When someone makes a rude comment and then says, “I’m just being honest,” it isn't always constructive criticism or even true.
Someone who gives you genuinely constructive criticism is actually rooting for you. If you respect this person & know them to be genuine, you will ...
When someone is giving you unsolicited advice
- If you want to share something with a friend or colleague who likes to offer their opinion, say: "I want to share what's going on and would appreciate it if you can listen without offering advice or criticism."
- Another way to stop auto-advice: "At ...
What to say to deflect nosy questions
You don't owe anyone personal information, especially not to satisfy their curiosity.
- To someone asking how much money you earn: " Trust me, not even close to what I'm worth."
- To someone who asks about your love life: "I'd rather not talk ab...
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