5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests - Deepstash
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests

5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests

It means finding common ground with the person you're talking to and showing that you understand their point of view. When you talk about things that the other person is interested in, they're more likely to be engaged in the conversation and to feel like you're on their side.

Tips for talking in terms of the other person's interests:

  • Ask questions about their interests.
  • Share stories about your own experiences that are relevant to their interests.
  • Use humor that they'll appreciate.
  • Find common ground with them.

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