How to Win Friends and Influence People

Smiling may seem like a simple gesture, but its impact is enormous. When you smile, you communicate to others that you are happy to see them. People are drawn to those who exude positivity and warmth.

Tips for smiling more:

• Make eye contact with the person you're talking to.
• Smile naturally, without forcing it.
• Smile often, even when you don't feel like it.
• Smile at people you don't know.

People are more likely to like you if they feel like you're paying attention to them. One way to do this is to remember their names. When you remember someone's name, it shows that you're interested in them and that you care about them.

Tips for remembering names:

• Repeat the name back to the person when you meet them.
• Associate the person's name with something memorable, like their appearance or their job title.
• Use the person's name often in conversation.
• Make a list of names and their associated memories.

It means paying attention to what the other person is saying and not interrupting. It also means asking questions to show that you're interested in what they have to say.

Here are some tips for being a good listener:

• Make eye contact with the person you're talking to.
• Lean in slightly and nod your head to show that you're listening.
• Don't interrupt.
• Ask questions to show that you're interested.
• Summarize what the person has said to show that you understand.

It means finding common ground with the person you're talking to and showing that you understand their point of view. When you talk about things that the other person is interested in, they're more likely to be engaged in the conversation and to feel like you're on their side.

Tips for talking in terms of the other person's interests:

• Ask questions about their interests.
• Share stories about your own experiences that are relevant to their interests.
• Use humor that they'll appreciate.
• Find common ground with them.

It means acknowledging people's accomplishments and making them feel valued. When you make someone feel important, they're more likely to like you and to be persuaded by you.

Tips for making the other person feel important:

1. Compliment them on their accomplishments.
2. Thank them for their help.
3. Show that you appreciate their input.
4. Give them credit for their ideas.
5. Make them feel like they're the expert.