This method by Willis Carrier helps you to stop worrying:<ol><li>Analyse the situation openly and honestly. Find out the worst that could happen.</li><li>Accept the worst that could happen.</li><li>Keep calm and use all your time and energy to mitigate the worst that could happen that you have already accepted.</li></ol>

How To Deal With Situations You Are Worried About

“We have to think about our problems, but not worry about them. [...] Worrying means recognising where the problem lies and then doing something to sort it out. Worrying means going round in circles in despair and hopelessness.”

Do I tend to put of living in the present until later? Do I worry about the future? Am I thinking about the magical rose garden over the horizon?Do I sometimes make the present difficult for myself because I regret things that happened in the past and that are long gone and done?Am I waking up every day with the intention of living it to the fullest?Can I do more with my life by diving it into untis of days?When should I start doing that? Next week, tomorrow or… today?

Questions To Reflect On

“70% of all people that go to the doctor could heal themselves by getting rid of their anxiety and worries.”

“Confusion and ambiguity are the main causes for anxiety.”

“There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.”

“If you spent even half the time you are now wasting on brooding to solve your problems, you would no longer have any. Worrying is just a bad habit.”

“The only way to avoid being miserable is not to have enough leisure to wonder whether you are happy or not.”

“If I am faced with a problem and can do something, I do something. If I can't do anything, I just forget about it.”

“When we stop fighting the inevitable, we release energy which enables us to create a richer life”

“Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.”

“The difference between good thinking and bad thinking is this: good thinking deals with causes and effects and leads to logical, constructive planning; bad thinking frequently leads to tension and nervous breakdowns”

Thoughts have a huge impact on our well-being. Here are a few ideas by Sibyl F. Partridge:<ul><li>Happiness comes from within and has nothing to do with our circumstances.</li><li>Accept things as they are, be prepared and don’t force anything.</li><li>Take care of your body and train your mind: Exercise and nurture it; read something that requires focus, concentration and thinking.</li><li>Do someone a favour without him noticing. </li><li>Make yourself pretty, dress up, be polite, don’t criticise.</li><li>Live today and don’t solve all your problems at once. Write a plan.</li><li>Take a break for half an hour.</li><li>Enjoy every beautiful detail.</li></ul>

Positive Thoughts

“Gratitude is the fruit of great cultivation; you do not find it among gross people.”

“Faith is one of the forces by which men live, and the total absence of it means collapse.”

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”

Show empathy with the people around you and forget yourself. Do someone a favour, help them and make them smile! This is so effective because during the process of helping someone, you forget yourself and your problems.

Help Other People

“You’re not what you think you are, but what you think, you are!”

Use these four steps:<ol><li> Collect data: What am I worried about? What is the problem</li><li>Analyse it: What is the cause of the problem? What can I do about it?</li><li>Make a decision: How do I decide?</li><li>Act on it: When will I put it into action?</li></ol>Or use Probability Calculation:What is the probability that the things I am worried about actually happen?

Tips For Analysing

“A feeling of security is particularly important for healthy sleep.”

“Did [Jack Dempsey] constantly admonish himself not to ruminate on the past? No, that would only have forced him to think about past problems. Rather, he accepted his defeat, came to terms with it and concentrated on his future.”

“Our main task is not to see what lies in the vague distance, but only to do what is closest.”

Benefits of praying:<ul><li>You express what you are worried about.</li><li>You can share your burden with someone. Even if you have no one to talk to, god is always there.</li><li>You are inspired to take action.</li></ul>

Pray

“Don't worry about insomnia. It does far more damage than the actual lack of sleep.”

“A man is not hurt so much by what happens, as by his opinion of what happens.”

Boredom is often the main cause for fatigue. Make your work fun and a challenge. Act as if you love what you are doing.

Boredom

“As the years went by, I gradually discovered that ninety-nine per cent of the things I worried about never happened.”

“Think and act cheerfully, then you will also feel cheerful.”

Facts need to be analysed, otherwise they are useless. It is important to analyse them objectively while being aware of confirmation bias (= the tendency to look for information that confirm your original beliefs).To be objective you can act as if you were collecting the data for another person and not for yourself or pretend to be a lawyer of the other party that has to find all the facts that contradict your own.

Analyse Your Problems

“Those who don’t know how to deal with anxiety and worries die earlier.”

Reasons why should try again after failing:<ul><li>Maybe you achieve your goal this time.</li><li>Even if you fail again, at least you looked ahead instead of backwards. You were optimistic and full of energy.</li></ul>

When Life Gives You A Lemon, Make Lemonade

Fatigue is often a cause for worries and anxiety. Reduce it as much as you can.Relax, sit and lay down as often as you can. Relax your entire body even while working and check yourself regularly: Am I making my work harder than it actually is by using muscles that have nothing to do with what I am working on? And the end of the day ask yourself: How tired am I?

The Problem With Fatigue

<ul><li>Using your brain does not make you tired but your negative attitude and feelings do.</li><li>Talk about what you are worried about.</li><li>Have a journal with inspirational quotes so that you can read it whenever you need it.</li><li>Don’t think about other people’s imperfections too much.</li><li>Be interested in other people.</li><li>Make a plan for the next day before you go to bed.</li><li> Lay down on the floor and stretch yourself as long as you can.</li><li>Close your eyes and imagine something beautiful.</li><li>Tense your muscles and let them loose.</li><li>Breathe slowly, deeply and regurlarly.</li></ul>

More Tips To Reduce Fatigue

“The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool.”

“When you devote yourself to a cause infinitely greater than yourself, it is a sure way of being able to forgive your enemies and forget them. Insults and hostilities become totally unimportant, because you think only of your great goal and become insensitive to everything else.”

“The biggest and most effective healing powers are faith, sleep, music and laughter. Believe in god, learn how to sleep, love good music and see all the odd sides of life – then you will be healthy and happy.”

"Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune."

“Our thoughts make us who we are.”

"When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means – we have everything to gain!”

Accept the things you can’t change. Don’t worry about small, unimportant things.Set a limit to your worries:         <ol><li> How important is the thing I am worried about?</li><li>At which point should I set a limit to my worries?</li><li>How much does it cost? Have I already paid more than it costs?</li></ol>Instead, appreciate what you have. Count your blessings, not your problems.

Acceptance

“There is only one way on God's green earth to benefit from the past - if we objectively analyse the mistakes made, learn from them and then forget them.”

“By talking to yourself every hour of the day, you can direct yourself to think thoughts of courage and happiness, thoughts of power and peace.”

“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not. Therefore, the ideal and conscious way to cheerfulness - when you have lost it - is to sit calmly and act and speak as if you were already cheerful.”

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”

“It is claimed that almost all our fears and worries, our unhappiness, are caused by our imagination and have nothing to do with reality.”

“We seldom think of what we have, but always of what we lack.”

The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, with all your enthusiasm, on doing today’s work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future.

“When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness”

“You can be cured in fourteen days if you follow this prescription. Try to think every day how you can please someone.”

“Of course, you can’t saw sawdust! It’s already sawed! And it’s the same with the past. When you start worrying about things that are over and done with, you’re merely trying to saw sawdust.”

We should be living in the present moment instead of living in the past or the future. Live one day after another. Divide your life into units of days.Pretend as if every day was the first and the last day that you are alive.

Live Today

“If a person will devote their time to securing facts in an impartial, objective way, their worries will usually evaporate in the light of knowledge”

Worrying and having anxiety have lots of negative impacts on your body. It is harder for us to concentrate and focus. In the long term it makes us age faster and can be the root cause for lots of diseases and illnesses.

The Negative Effects Of Worrying

Unfair critique is often a hidden compliment. Do the best you can and ignore all the hate you get for it.However, you should also be taking your time to reflect on what you did so that you can learn from your mistakes and from your enemies. With that, they have no more power over you.Nobody is perfect. Write your mistakes down and analyse them. Ask for objective, constructive and uplifting critique.

Dealing With Criticism

When you can’t sleep, get up, read a book and learn something. Pray, relax or do some hard work.

What To Do When You Can't Sleep

“Every day is a new day to a wise man.”

“One of the chief causes of fatigue is boredom.”

“A problem well stated is a problem half-solved.”

“Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.”

“He was so busy with positive things that he had no time or inclination to think about the past.”

“My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened.”

“Wise men do not sit idly by and moan about what they have lost, but cheerfully strive to repair the damage.”

“There is only one way to get love - if any: you have to stop demanding it and start giving love without any hope of getting anything in return."

“We only want to know the facts that justify our actions, that fit our wishful thinking and reinforce our prejudices.”

"When you are good to others you are best to yourself."

Forgive Your Enemies: Doing your enemies bad hurts you more than it hurts them. Don’t waste time thinking about people you don’t like.Ungrateful people: Don’t be angry about ungrateful people. Due to human nature, people are naturally ungrateful. Don’t give to receive gratitude but because of inner joy. Be prepared for ungratefulness so you don’t have to be angry about it. Gratitude is an attitude that needs to be cultivated, you should be teaching it to children.

How To Deal With Certain People

“Every man is a damn fool for at least five minutes a day. Wisdom consists of not exceeding the limit.”

“Everything that is in agreement with our personal desires seems true. Everything that is not puts us into a rage.”

“Never do something you don’t want to do.”

<ul><li>Put everything away from your desk that is not related with your current task.</li><li>Do things the moment you have to do them.</li><li>Do things in their order of importance.</li><li>Think and plan.</li><li>Solve problems and make decisions as soon as you can when you have all necessary information.</li><li>Learn to organise and delegate.</li></ul>

Tips For Work

“Do what you think is right in your heart - because you will be criticised anyway. You will be condemned if you do it and if you don't you will also be condemned.”

“The biggest misconception of all doctors lies in wanting to heal the body without thinking of the spirit. Body and spirit are one and shouldn’t be treated separately.”

“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”

“Worries go when the movement comes.”

“Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decision – and dismiss all anxiety of the outcome.”

“I am deeply convinced that our peace of mind and the joy we get out of living depends not on where we are, or what we have, or who we are, but solely on our mental attitude.”

“Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

“I keep six honest serving-men, they taught me all I knew. Their names are What and Why and When. And How and Where and Who.”

Be so busy that you don’t have time to be worried.It is only possible to think one thought at a time – never two. Make sure that you think positive thoughts so you don’t have space for negative ones.Nature hates vacuums and emptiness which is why an empty brain is automatically filled with negatives thoughts as they are stronger than positive ones.

How To Eliminate Worries

<ul><li>Read in history books because you will see your problems from a distance and realise that they are tiny in comparison to eternity.</li><li>See your problems in a bigger context: In two months it won’t even matter.</li><li>Laugh about your worries.</li><li>Be honest with yourself.</li><li>Always have a plan B so that you are safe.</li><li>Don’t talk about your mistakes as soon as you did them and instead wait 24h.</li><li>Remember that worries have no advantages.</li><li>Surround yourself with positive people that lift you up.</li></ul>

Some More Tips

<ol><li>Divide Life Into Units Of Days: Live one day at a time.</li><li>Think about the worst that could happen, accept it and try to mitigate it.</li><li>Collect all facts, analyse them, make a decision and act on it. </li><li>Think about the negative consequences worrying has on your health. Keep your thoughts positive.</li><li>Accept what you can’t change. Don’t worry about small things. Set a limit to your worries. Appeciate what you have. Make the best out of everything.</li><li> Forgive your enemies and ungrateful people. Learn how to use criticism.</li><li>Keep yourself busy. Help other people.</li><li>Relax. Focus on one thing and do it cheerfully.</li></ol>

Summary

Dale Carnegie shares how to finally stop worrying and start living using the practical tips he collected from various people from all over the world. Please note that I read the book in German, which is why some quotes might differ from the English version.

Learn the proven, time-tested principles to breaking your worry habits—now and forever—with Dale Carnegie’s expert advice so you can start living your best carefree life today. With Dale Carnegie’s timeless advice in hand, more than six million people have learned how to eliminate debilitating fear and worry from their lives and to embrace a worry-free future. In this classic work, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Carnegie offers a set of practical formulas that you can put to work today. It is a book packed with lessons that will last a lifetime and make that lifetime happier! Discover how to: -Eliminate fifty percent of business worries immediately -Reduce financial worries -Avoid fatigue—and keep looking young -Add one hour a day to your waking life -Find yourself and be yourself—remember there is no one else on earth like you! Fascinating to read and easy to apply, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living deals with fundamental emotions and life-changing ideas. There's no need to live with worry and anxiety that keep you from enjoying a full, active life!

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The book 'How to stop worrying &amp; start living' suggest many ways to conquer worry and lead a wonderful life.  The book mentions fundamental facts to know about worry and magic formula for solving worry-some situations.  Psychologists &amp; Doctors' view:  •	Worry can make even the most stolid person ill.  •	Worry may cause nervous breakdown.  •	Worry can even cause tooth decay  •	Worry is one of the factors for High Blood Pressure.  •	Worry makes you tense and nervous and affect the nerves of your stomach.  The book suggests basic techniques in analysing worry, step by step, in order to cope up with them.  A very interesting feature of the book is 'How to eliminate 50% of your business worries'.  The book offers 7 ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness. Also, the golden rule for conquering worry, keeping your energy &amp; spirits high.  The book consists of some True Stories which will help the readers in conquering worry to lead you to success in life.  The book is full of similar incidences and narrations which will make our readers to understand the situation in an easy way and lead a happy life. A must read book for everyone.

Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.

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