What Lack of Assertiveness Is

Lack of assertive behavior refers to difficulty or hesitation in expressing one's opinions, needs, or desires in a clear, confident, and respectful manner. People who struggle with assertiveness might find themselves avoiding conflicts, going along with others' wishes even when they disagree, or having difficulty standing up for themselves. They may also experience criticism, anxiety, and passivity. In extreme cases, they may be like “emotional doormats” and may completely lose sight of what they want in life.